So yesterday mil invited DH, myself and DC for dinner. Off for 4 days due to Christmas period.
when we were there she was saying tomorrow we will be going to her sisters ( DH aunt house), as she invited. I didn’t want to go but accepted as DH was saying to his siblings we will do whatever the mum says. But later she changed her mind and said Instead of going tomorrow, we will go to hers on Monday, where she will invite people over. She didn’t ask if I am free, just implied we should be there. So I thought Sunday will be ours at least to tidy and sort things out as I’m heavily pregnant and the baby will be coming soon.
however today she called saying she wants to go to this family of hers today as she hasn’t seen her in long time and she is bed bound.
husband came to me and said we are going to theirs later In the evening, and then we will all be going to see the lights as his mum wants to see them. I said I won’t be going so he said he will just take DC and go.
Now, I had covid last Monday, so feel quite drained although testing negative now. DH called the family member who is bed bound but they prefer us not going as there’s a chance of spreading, as DC is not well now.
The point is I have been saying I want to see the lights, but DH never made the effort/time or plan to go. I even said I’ll go alone if he keeps an eye on DC.
but now all of a sudden he doesn’t mind going and is up to go today.
Am I doing something wrong here? How do I make him value me more? Ofcouse I respect that it’s his mum, and that he wants to make her happy as we don’t live with her, but at the end of the day wouldn’t he need to discuss with me before making arrangements?