Ex being horrible at Christmas

[Advicepleaze]

Been divorced 4 years and recently told ex about my new partner. He’s not happy and feels “betrayed” as it’s someone we both used to be friends with years ago.
I can see that ex has been “typing” on WhatsApp for about 10 minutes and he has been winding the kids up too. I just know he’s going to send an awful message and the kids are feeling anxious also now. Just needed a bit of a vent really - hate when he is like this

“I’ve got an idea, let’s all put our phones away until tomorrow and watch a film!”

i sympathise- my ex is a piece of dog shit - so I mitigate his opportunity to upset us all.

Block him. Just for today. And don’t engage AT ALL about messages regarding your Boyf and his feelings around it - it’s irrelevant and I’m embarrassed for your ex.

again, just for today, block him.

Thank you, that’s good advice! Feeling pretty stressed right now, wish everyone could just be nice! Wouldn’t be so bad but he actually moved on first and has been with his girlfriend for three years!

he actually moved on first and has been with his girlfriend for three years!

Oh FFS.

Betrayed?

He's been with someone else for 3 years and you presumably separated some time before that. You can get together with someone he knew/knows. He doesn't get to dictate you can't ever date anyone you or he knew.

What a spoilt unreasonable child.

And what a shit parent, involving your kids.

So my ex obviously sat on the text he was preparing on Christmas Day and finally sent it yesterday. Five paragraphs of how he disapproves of my relationship, that it’s bad for the children and that basically I am a bad mum. But also that he wants to have more comms with me regarding the children going forward! Wtf!!!! The kids are with him just now and I’m so worried he is winding them up and bad-mouthing me to them. I don’t even know whether to reply or not?!

I’d go with “ok” and leave it at that. I’d then do absolutely nothing different. However I wouldn’t have told him about the boyfriend in the first place - 100% none of his business. You can date whoever you like and you never ever need to tell him anything about it!

I’m just not sure how to deal with him badmouthing me to the kids. I really just want things to calm down but he’s always been impossible to reason with so I don’t really know what to do next and I’m frightened of how nasty he can be.