Help advise am I overthinking

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Ok so I've been dating my Portugese boyfriend for 6 months and we r in love. Hes always kept his facebook private like just a cartoon photo, about 40'friends, all male. And he told me that he has lots of requests from people he knows but he hasn't accepted them because they have his number. And he said he only uses it for marketplace. So anyway just the other week I uploaded a profile pic of us both and then he changed his privacy settings so he hid all his friends and hid his wall so now he has nothing on his fb atall. Like am I overthinking ? Has he got something to hide? He's away to Portugal for a month due to work problems and it's been difficult with the time apart especially when he gets drunk a lot and parties,he doesn't message me when he gets high and drunk and I seen him active online and doesn't message me straight away.Am I overthinking and being paranoid ? Or am I Normal to wonder ...

Doesn't sound like you trust him and maybe with good reason...

He sounds very dodgy and secretive.

Any man who ‘parties’ and can’t be arsed to stay in contact when away is clearly up to no good.

How old are you both?

I'm 43 and he's 38

Yeah, he's either stopping you from seeing things he doesn't want you to, or there's someone else who he doesn't want to know about you.

Given this changed after you added him to your profile pic, I'd say the latter is more likely and you are in fact his side piece. Sorry 😟

Sounds dodgy. You’re only six months in - end it now. Trust your instincts.

What @EvenMoreFuriousVexation said.
Going away for a month and being uncommunicative due to drink and drugs isn't exactly confidence inspiring as to the kind of person you're building something with. Shaky foundations at best.

Right…

It's one thing doing this at 21 but at 38...

Sound like he needs to grow up a bit. Have a stern word when he reappears but also sounds like you need to be prepared to end it

The Facebook thing I cant get worked up about I only use social media for very limited things and wouldn't like anything that tried to change that

It's the non-contact and partying behaviour I would focus on

He doesn’t sound ready to settle down or have a serious relationship yet.

To be honest, why do you see/hope/think there’s a long term future with a guy who drinks and gets high and behaves weird?

Raise your bar. This isn’t love. It’s infatuation/lust.

Sounds like his hiding you and hiding someone else from you. It’s not good.

Doesn't sound like he's in love, normally you would want friends and family to see how happy you are, he obviously hasn't or doesn't want to tell others about you.

He parties, so he hasn't grown out of that lifestyle (not that there's anything wrong occasionally) but men that party a lot are normally immature and always on the look out for other women.

Neither of you seem to understand what an adult relationship looks like. You don't work out things about trust by looking at facebook. You ask him about what's bothering you. If you don't believe his answer, you leave him. Social media doesn't affect healthy relationships.

Hiding you from someone.

You sure he's not married in Portugal?