Seeking advice on how to break up with my SO or at least just advice on what the best decision to make is- I’m 19M, she’s 20F. We’ve been dating for almost a year now and in that time she’s become very intertwined in my life. She began to work at my parent’s business, the same one I work at, about six months into our relationship. We have all of the same friends as a result of our respective friend groups merging into one larger friend group shortly after we began dating. She has very little family and the family she does have is crazy and abusive, so she’s taken on my family as her own to a certain degree. I can see it’s obviously very good for her mental health because, arguably for the first time in her life, she has a stable support system. I feel a tremendous amount of guilt over the fact that I have an urge to break things off for a few reasons: For one, breaking up would do away with this life that we’ve built up together, and this support system would more or less dissolve. Even if I don’t feel as strong of a connection to her anymore, I still care about her and I don’t want her to be stranded. Also, a primary motivator in my desire to break up is because of the spark just…fizzling out. At least for me. I don’t feel the same joy telling her about my day or listening to hers. I never want to have sex and we probably have sex twice a month, if that. Maybe we’re just so busy and there’s no time to get away from it all and reflect on why this works. Or why it doesn’t. At any rate, I just don’t feel the same sync I used to. We both are full time university students, she works one job and I work two. If I were to break up with her or even bring up the state of our relationship, it would take her completely by surprise. As far as I know, everything to her is fine.