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Reciprocated crush perhaps or is he just a friendly person?

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ArnaBanana · 23/12/2022 17:45

It's the owner of a shop I've been going to for the past month. It's a niche place that sells things to do with one of my hobbies and I go in approx once a week now. The owner is lovely, really chatty and friendly.

The past couple of times I've gone in we've hit it off talking and last week he kindly gave me a discount on the items I bought (I didn't ask nor need him to incase anybody thinks I was hankering for a discount!) he just said he appreciates returning customers.

Today I went in again to grab some more bits and he gave me an extra, as a Christmas present he said. We were chatting for about half an hour this time about all sorts, our interests, politics, films we like. We appear to have a fair bit in common. I've ascertained that he's single as he mentioned that he split with his long term partner two years ago (in the context that he no longer has somebody else managing the place with him)

I think he seems lovely and looks-wise is just my type but I'm a bit worried about making a prat of myself by inviting him out for a drink incase I'm barking up the wrong tree and he's just a really down to earth guy with brill customer service 😂 (as testified by the business' reviews I read before going there)

What do you think? Any idea how I could test the waters short of actually asking him on a date and potentially being rejected?

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pictoosh · 23/12/2022 17:51

Oooh I don't know...it's hard to say. If he was as interested as I would like I suppose I'd be looking for him to ask me out.

ArnaBanana · 23/12/2022 17:58

pictoosh · 23/12/2022 17:51

Oooh I don't know...it's hard to say. If he was as interested as I would like I suppose I'd be looking for him to ask me out.

Yeah thats the thing, men aren't usually backwards in coming forwards are they? It's probably entirely one sided 🙈

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Thingsdogetbetter · 23/12/2022 18:15

He managed to get that he was single in a conversation where it wasn't actually necessary info so I'd say interested. 😁

ArnaBanana · 23/12/2022 18:36

Thingsdogetbetter · 23/12/2022 18:15

He managed to get that he was single in a conversation where it wasn't actually necessary info so I'd say interested. 😁

I did wonder but not sure if I was reading too much into it 😁

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Bridgi · 23/12/2022 18:55

I say just go for it. Take a chance.

What’s the worst that can happen? He says no: you’ll be a bit embarrassed, then start avoiding the shop and resort to buying your hobby items online.

Orrr it could be the start of an amazing romance. Grin

Zanatdy · 23/12/2022 18:57

Go in again, get chatting then say really lovely to chat, if you ever fancy a coffee / drink let me know. If he’s not interested maybe don’t go again!

trulyunruly01 · 23/12/2022 19:00

Is the shop near a coffee shop?
Next time you go in say you're going to get a posh coffee, can you treat him to one as well. He'll either say Nope. Or Yes, you get the coffee I'll fetch the biscuits. OR Don't go buying them, come into the back and I'll make us a Nespresso. Does he look like George Clooney at all?
You've got to make the transition from business to personal.

ArnaBanana · 23/12/2022 19:18

Ooh his shop is on a parade with a Costa just a few doors down actually, that's an idea.

Need to make the transition from business to personal - noted!

He looks nothing like George Clooney unfortunately and he's half is age (as am I) but he's very much my type (I'm a bit 'alt' 😁)

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ArnaBanana · 23/12/2022 19:20

If he rejects me I'll be too mortified to ever go into his shop again which will be a shame as I love their stuff, I could always send my DM in for me 😂

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Itiswhatitis21 · 23/12/2022 19:29

Normally i read these types of posts and think 'nope its all in your head'
But this definitely sounds like he is interested 😁

Offer a coffee as a thank you for the gift?

ArnaBanana · 26/12/2022 13:22

He mentioned being happy to deliver if ever I was short of time and couldn't get down to the shop so I think I'm going to use that as my 'in' to get his telephone number, then extend the coffee invitation over text. I'm far too nervous to do it in person 🙈

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YNWA2009 · 26/12/2022 13:34

@ArnaBanana ....after you get his number..

"Hi George (Clooney lol), I hope you don't mind me messaging you, but I just wanted to say 'thank you' for the recent kindness you have shown with the discounts and Christmas gift/freebie, it means a lot. Please, let me know if you have 1 hour spare during your break as I would like to buy you a coffee and notice that there is a XXXXX coffee shop near your shop. If you don't fancy it, then no issues, but the offer is there. Regards, Sandra (Bullock lol)."

Not saying you can't write a message, as I'm sure you're capable, however thought it would be a bit of fun.

Good luck!

MyDogLucy · 26/12/2022 13:41

Oh please keep us updated, I'm so invested in this now. For what its worth, I do think it sounds like he's interested!

MasssiveSalad · 11/04/2023 15:09

Any updates?

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