Would this be crossing the line or a nice gesture?

[Doodles29]

Hi all!

I’m spending Christmas Day with my boyfriend this year. He is hosting at his house.

He has been working full time leading up to Christmas and on top of that is not feeling very well.

His place is very messy and dusty at the moment, with no decorations and no warm feeling. He gave me a key a few months ago and I let myself in when he is running late at work.

I am due to be heading over to his tonight and using his key to get in (as usual). I have baked some goodies at home, wrapped all of his presents, got some bits to set the table and got a mini Christmas tree.

Would it overstep the mark if I went over there this afternoon, spruced and decorated the place up a bit ready for him to host on Christmas Day? Or do you think he would be offended?

He has a pile of things to do, so I was thinking this would help him out a bit?

thanks!

Just ask him!

I would ask first

Definitely ask first.

Ask first. Tell him you noticed he has a lot to do and you'd love to help contribute to hosting Christmas.

My boyfriend (now husband) was always quite upset if I tried to tidy his house. He hasn't got any tidier with marriage 🙄

Thanks all - I guess I wanted it to be a nice surprise- but won’t be nice if he responds the other way!

I think I’ll ask. ☺️

I'd definitely ask. I am not the tidiest person but I HATE it when someone takes it upon themselves to do stuff (like stack the dishwasher after a dinner party). And I would think it was really out of order for them to clean anything else.

Don't surprise him, definitely ask first.

Always ask first.

I would word it carefully: noticed you're very busy, I'm happy to help tidy up and decorate the place up for the party if you like?