Used like a bit of meat

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I dont think im worth very little, but the person that used me like a bit of meat, and didnt give me genuine love did. they said they didnt treat me like that just so they can justify to themselves not to even apologise. Its not that I think i deserved it, it hurts that someone else thinks I deserved it though. Someone could be bothered to treat me like a bit of meat, so why couldnt they be bothered to love me.i have tried to express myself to them and it feels like talking to a brick wall thats only interested in defending itself

Some men are going to love you, some men aren't. Bin the ones that don't, you can't convince someone otherwise. The best anyone can do is assess whether they like or respect you before sleeping with them, but there's still no guarantee they haven't lied to get the sex even then.

If someone has treated you disrespectfully, cut contact and move on. You can't shame a person into loving you.

Really do not go to the poison to try to treat the sickness. You shouldn't have to explain basics like courtesy and respect, doing so only gives them more opportunity to disrespect you. The ultimate in dignity and respect is walking away and saying nothing further.

Do you mean someone promised you the world then lost interest after sex? Unfortunately it happens. Its shit but nobody owes you love or longevity. you won't get any apology or healing from them so stop looking for it. Hold your head up and walk away entirely. Block and move on.

What happened op , did someone lose interest after sex?

I understand how you feel, but what you have to remember is that we expect most people to have morals and values, and to treat people decently.

Sadly not everyone does and those are the people who can discard and act like you meant nothing.

Secondly- give yourself time to come to terms with how you have been treated and realise your worth.. these people are not worth a thought

Don't give them.head space. They did not realise the value of u. Thst their problem. If u do u won't let this Helen again. Learn from.this experience.

Not Helen this should read happen. 🙈

Op, what you allow is what will happen. Very wise words i was told , about 18 yrs ago. I am sorry to read you have been treated like this. As a younger woman i had very low self esteem and a low bar, i see now all connected to my upbringing and mentally ill mum. I chose partners badly and often ultimately used.

When you feel worth in yourself, which you should and are most worthy of, you will find a good man. You will be picky. It is a learning process. You DO NOT need to express yourself to them. The best thing you can do for you is block, delete, move on and work on yourself.

I’m not a mum but I can relate it’s horrible and you deserve more never let anyone treat you like . I wish you well heal your wounds and the right man will see your glow

OP - if you think that sex is exchanged for love, you will end up in the same place over and over.
No one owes you love, irrespective of whether or not they have sec with you. They do of course owe you respect. That is just human decency.

I run away from disrespect, you dreserve to be loved

Posted too soon.
In your future relationships - only have sex if you actually want to have sex with that person at that time. Don’t have it with some sort of expectation of being loved in return.
Sex is not a downpayment on a transaction.