Been with my stbxdp for over a decade.
We have kids. (Primary age)
Hes abusive mainly psychologically and sexually but also financially and emotionally.
Ive always painted a rosy picture of our life. Lied to myself and denied it was that bad.
He’s done many good things for our family.
Were not married. His mortgage.
He’s mainly sexually coercive, I’ve given in many times through exhaustion. He’s raped me on a few occasions. Either by way of me saying stop and him not or him having sex with me although I’m definitely telling him it’s not what I want. Never violent.
Things have got bad.
I want to know what I would need to have a decent chance of him being convicted if I went to the police. What evidence I would have to prove that he’s an abuser.
there is no way I’m going to report this unless I feel like I have a chance.
The reason being that if the case is dropped it’s an instant win for him.
I have multiple text messages of me begging him to stop being abusive and maybe some voice notes of him being verbally abusive.