Issues with DP's daughter.

[NotTheBadGuy]

Hi,

I've been with dp on and off for about 18 months now but have known eachother for 10 years beforehand. Before things became official I'd had an alright relationship with his daughter (now 17). We'd always chat, exchange pleasantries in passing, spend time together, go out places, exchange gifts/cards for birthdays, etc. She's always known i've been involved with DP in that time whether it was friends, FWB or more and we've honestly never had a bad word between us.

Since me and DP decided to become official last year, she's made things incredibly difficult to the point she has now for the past few months gone NC with dp unless we've had an argument.

She has had huge arguments with dp about me, calling me everything under the sun, saying I'm taking him away from her and threatening to call the police with false accusations that I'm abusing DP and my DC (not DPs child) unless he leaves me.

To not drip feed, dp has clearly enabled her in all of this by going to her when we argue and making up God knows what to make himself as innocent as sin, cutting contact when he's with me then heightening it when we fall out. Alot of the stuff she has said is really not true and could be potentially life damaging but its clear he's is probably one of the reasons she now really dislikes me.

She's made it clear she has no intention of speaking to me about all of this and has now issued DP with an ultimatum to choose me or her. I must admit I'm not entirely fussed if he does choose her and ,for my own sanity, would prefer it if he did as he is now blaming me for her wanting nothing to do with him and probably always will but im also being ridiculed not encouraging a relationship with him in my home, infront of my DC, when her dislike of me is very obvious that she will exclude me and make me feel unwelcome in my own home.

I am at the stage where I'm happy to break up with DP (I have nothing to lose) but I'm worried about more lies being made up and her following through with these false allegations about my DC.

I guess I'm just looking for advice on this really.

You’ve had an on/off relationship for 18 months. This should be enough to make you walk away.

Get in there first and end it.
What a toxic mess

Get rid of this toxic dramatic pair.

Let her make allegations. Nothing will come of it.

Classic triangulation/karpman triangle - your dp is painting himself as victim and you as persecutor,her role is then as rescuer. He may at other times blame her but his role as victim always remains fixed.

The sooner you end the relationship the faster the smear campaign will stop.

The person to be angry with is your Dp, just end it, don't seek to add fuel to the fire by blaming either one of them. Just say it's not working and best you both move on. Then go complete No contact. It's the only way.

Get rid… it’s never going to work.

You should end it. Walk away now with any dignity you have left.
If anything comes of accusations, face them then.
He sounds awful OP. Stay well clear.

Walk away. Actually, run away. What sort if a man goes back to his 17yo dd and tells her one sided accounts of arguments. Also what sort of man lets his dd know about his fwb relationships?

Why on earth haven't you ended this disaster already? It's unfathomable that you're still wasting your time on this man. I'm wondering if you actually enjoy the drama because no self-respecting woman would put up with this shit.

Obviously dump the boyfriend. Don’t accept such a crap bloke in future. His kid is his business. Shocking that you’ve indulged in this drama and nonsense for a year and a half.

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If you're really not bothered then take control of the situation and bring it to an end. The accusations and allegations will probably all melt away once daughter gets her own way.

Waaaayy too much drama! 😊

Gah! Can't believe I fell for a zombie! 😬😬