What personality disoder is this ?

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Soon to be Ex -H won't reveal his address to the courts

and

tells the young kids that no videos and photos are allowed of the inside of his home or the kids bedrooms.

Won't turn on the lights and sits in the dark talking to the kids on zoom.

Not every thing is a disorder. Some people are just weird and/or arseholes

Tells kids that I sent people spying on them , showed photos of strangers to kids saying your mum sent these people to spy on us. Installs cameras all around his home on the outside

If he thinks that he is being spied on then it sounds more like he is paranoid and potentially suffering from psychosis more so than it sounds like a personality disorder.

It’s “knobism” and there’s no known cure.

Yes, I am looking for the mental health terms of which there are so many and I do not know. . Pyschosis. Then I can read up more on it. Thank you

Sounds like possible paranoid personality disorder.

If it’s only recently that he has become paranoid then it’s likely not a personality disorder as those are more pervasive. Is he doing anything else paranoid? It sounds like it could be a type of psychosis which is really worrying if he spends time alone with your kids.

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I think he has always been like that , but I was blind to it. And now its only more apparent. My kids are now saying people are following them!

I have heard him say to the kids " You cannot reveal anything about this home"

This isn't good for DC to be around and if you're genuinely disturbed by this then you should maybe consider changing the current arrangement. Could be having a psychotic episode.

Paranoia. Which is a symptom on schizophrenia

Paranoia is often an element of many mental health issues, not just schizophrenia.

Yes, he's paranoid

maybe he may thinks you may be horrible where he is living.

there are many things that go thru peoples head when they seperate, I’ve seen it lots of times at work, (especially with the men) it’s that they are hurting badly, and want to retreat into themselves for a while, they snap out of it, when someone new comes along

Sounds like he's feeling vulnerable but you're not the one who he'd probably accept help from.

It's better to focus on getting away from people you feel are disordered than it is to focus on diagnosing them. You have little to gain from making stabs in the dark about a potential diagnosis, and much to gain from getting yourself and your children away from toxicity.

I’m not sure there is a diagnosis for what you are describing.
Has he been victimised in some way? Has someone used information against him? Sometimes it’s learnt behaviour to protect themselves. What do the kids say? Does he behave strangely around them?
It might be something, it might be nothing. Was he paranoid before?

Playing devils advocate here…

Soon to be Ex -H won't reveal his address to the courts
⁃ he’s a private person, doesn’t trust the courts

and

tells the young kids that no videos and photos are allowed of the inside of his home or the kids bedrooms.

⁃	won’t be posting personal things about himself or the children on social media which is a great thing and it you getting hold of photos from his home incase you use it as ammo. I.e dishes weren’t done so you may say it’s too dirty for the children to be there. Or feels that this space is for him and the kids and not for you or anyone else to impose on

Won't turn on the lights and sits in the dark talking to the kids on zoom.
⁃ saving money, reduces anxiety especially if going through a hard time after separation

Tells kids that I sent people spying on them , showed photos of strangers to kids saying your mum sent these people to spy on us. Installs cameras all around his home on the outside
⁃ generally believes this perhaps due to last behaviours from you
⁃ - installing cameras outside is a positive thing

I think he has always been like that , but I was blind to it. And now its only more apparent. My kids are now saying people are following them!
⁃ then he’s just acting to his ‘normal’

I have heard him say to the kids " You cannot reveal anything about this home"
⁃ feels like it’s his safe space and doesn’t want you involved with his home

I am going to bring it up with the social worker.
Pointing out different strangers in the street, and telling the kids that they are following them.

Or is he smoking weed?

This a family court social worker

One option.

However it’s very important to consider that this will likely be terrorising your DCs.

How old are they? They won’t have the emotional developmental capacity to understand he is talking nonsense. This could be very confusing at best and traumatising at worst.

Why did your relationship break down? What other behaviours were there?

Someone being paranoid doesn’t mean they have a personality disorder. It can be indicative of a number of mental health conditions.

Why are you still allowing your children to visit him ?

This is not normal behaviour and could turn violent.

"he’s just acting to his ‘normal’"
Having always acted a certain way doesn't mean it isn't unhealthy. Doesn't mean it isnt causing problems for themselves and others. Quite often people aren't dx with personality disorders until 40's 50's and later.