Overwhelmed

[gemsandmilk]

I fell in love with a friend and we got together, and I am completely in love. Just so, so in love.

We’ve both got kids and not much time, but it’s always amazing when we’re together. I can’t imagine someone I’d like more.

I feel sometimes insecure. Like what if he leaves, prefers someone else. He is very tender and affectionate but he isn’t always reassuring I haven’t actually told him I love him. Should I? I think he knows anyway and I think we’re both choosing not to say, but I don’t know why.

Also it’s hard managing the fact that we can’t really make plans together, as we’ve both got kids and different responsibilities.

Does anyone have advice on how to manage emotions in a relationship that kind of had to be slow/separate because of the structure of life?

Same as the advice for anyone getting into a relationship: do what you want to do, rather than what you think you 'should' do. Make your own rules according to how you feel, and leave if you're treated badly.

Are you usually an anxious person, or just with him?

I’m not sure if I’m often an anxious person. I definitely sometimes feel I am not worthy of nice things.

Just go with the flow. No expectations and no pressure embracing the time you have together
That’s that what will keep it alive

You’re so right. I’d kind of forgotten that for a moment!