DH is blue - I dunno how to help :(

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He never really gets low (or never shows it at least)

His job is trying to change his hours and it is getting to him.

We are always struggling financially, which is also getting to him.

I am hormonal bitch from hell.

Obviously I can fix that one, but the rest I can't and I don't know what to do

He is very very quiet and the fact he has actually said he is down shows how bad it is.

Anyone got any advice? We're working on fixing the job situation

Hmm, sounds like you are both pretty pissed off at the minute.

What do you have in your life which is going well and that you are thankful for? What do you do that you really enjoy? Can you do that tomorrow - if you can even get away for two hours and do something frivolous it can provide the break you need. It doesn't have to be expensive, DH and I had a whale of a time at the bottle bank when I was really hormonal and he was really cross with me for being hormonal. We collected all our neighbours bottles and went on a mass smash - took an hour and we were so knackered at the end and laughing, it really helped.

Also if he works shifts, is it possible he's just really knackered?

Any chance you could get out for a few hours - just the two of you? A walk; a bar meal. It doesn't have to be expensive. This could help him look at things from a clearer perspective. Hope things get sorted for you soon. x

pmsl @ your smashing session!

I don't think we can get out just us (I spent all day with mum and the kids today, so I can't ask her tomorrow), but I know he likes Kimmeridge and looking for fossils. I will check the weather forecast and see if it is just meant to be cold or wet too. We can bundle the kids up warm and head off for the day.

He could well be knackered - doesn't work shifts, but DS isn't being co-operative with sleep, and part of hormonal bitch from hell means me refusing to get up with him

Picnics are cheap and you can feed the kids while he goes and looks at fossils - each to their own!

Recycling is honestly very cathartic - have a clear out or something.

Arse. Rain!

Loft clear?

Catch some snails and race them after getting them drunk on beer - fun for the whole family

lmao - the fossils was more that he would get all excited telling DD about them

We do need a HUGE clear out though. Maybe an ebay day is in order

Yes! An ebay day would be great - or have two one to sell and then one to buy more crap you don't need?

DH is always deleting my paypal balance on some or other thing that I didn't realise I needed in my life!

I wanna come for a family day at your house

That's hard. Fresh air always good but the weather isn't really helping at the moment is it? Can you encourage him to get more rest, naps, early nights etc. if he is really tired? You could also try and cook really healthy nice stuff for him, at least you can help look after him physically even if you don't feel you can help much with his mental state at the moment and then you might feel a bit better yourself if you feel you are doing something helpful.

My main ebay issue was always more nappies than we could ever use, but seeing as DS isn't in cloth now, and they stopped used nappies, my paypal stayed healthier

Well I'm glad you've cheered up a bit anyway, maybe you could make a snowman next week in the blizzard?

Hi Flame. Sorry to hear you are all feeling crap at the moment. Don't worry about the rain. Get those raincoats and wellies on and go out anyway. Kids love splashing in the puddles and the fresh air will do you good. Go out even if it's just for an hour. It's a break from work and the same old four walls. Dunk the kids in a nice warm bubble bath when you get back.

whomovedmychocolate - not much chance of Flame building a snowman. We don't get enough snow, if any, down this way to have the luxury.

He seems much chirpier today. I was originally meant to be doing the books today and planned to cancel, he says to still go do them so I have the rest of feb weekends free.