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Partner is not coming for Christmas

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Lifeisanillusion · 21/12/2022 09:10

My partner and I have been together for 4 years. We have been having a ldr for about 4 months due to his job. He was supposed to be coming to spend Christmas with my family but my dad and sister have covid. He has to go for an interview for a visa in January so he is saying he isn't going to come for Christmas as he does not want to catch COVID because of this. I just feel so upset I won't be spending Christmas with him and feel like he is cares more about going to the US then being with me. Am I overreacting?

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PearlclutchersInc · 21/12/2022 09:13

I wouldn't want to risk COVID either, visa or no visa.

Does seem a bit harsh at this time of year though.

gothmothtime · 21/12/2022 09:16

When is he supposed to be going to the US?

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Lifeisanillusion · 21/12/2022 09:17

gothmothtime · 21/12/2022 09:16

When is he supposed to be going to the US?

February

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Yesthatismychildsigh · 21/12/2022 09:17

You want/expect him to risk getting covid?

leelan · 21/12/2022 09:18

Very selfish from your part tbh! I wouldn't want to willingly catch covid either. If you are desperate to spend Christmas with him then perhaps go and see him?

Greybutterfly · 21/12/2022 09:18

I don’t blame him

PumpkinTruffle · 21/12/2022 09:20

Surely he can catch covid anywhere anytime though? I mean, especially at work! So I don't see why he can't spend one day with you unless he's self isolating for the next two months.

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Lifeisanillusion · 21/12/2022 09:23

leelan · 21/12/2022 09:18

Very selfish from your part tbh! I wouldn't want to willingly catch covid either. If you are desperate to spend Christmas with him then perhaps go and see him?

I am working Christmas Eve and boxing day so I wouldn't be able to get to him

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Billslills · 21/12/2022 09:25

I don’t think it’s unreasonable for him to not want to catch Covid… I wouldn’t go somewhere knowing the guests are positive.

Lkydfju · 21/12/2022 09:26

I wouldn’t spend Christmas with someone with Covid; it hit us so badly last time I wouldn’t want to risk it. Slightly confused though, will they test him when he goes for the visa?

gothmothtime · 21/12/2022 09:28

If it's an LDR how long would he have to travel to see you for only 1 day? If you're working Christmas Eve and Boxing Day.

oviraptor21 · 21/12/2022 09:28

Definitely would not be willingly sharing a house with covid in it.

handbagsandholidays · 21/12/2022 09:29

I would do the same if I was him! You can't expect somebody to willingly put themselves at risk of being ill. You say you have a LDR due to work... if he falls ill he would have to take sick leave. I suspect he lives on his own- being ill and on your own is no fun either.

StreamingCervix · 21/12/2022 09:30

What’s the plan when he moves to America? Is this the relationship slowly coming to an end?

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Lifeisanillusion · 21/12/2022 09:31

Lkydfju · 21/12/2022 09:26

I wouldn’t spend Christmas with someone with Covid; it hit us so badly last time I wouldn’t want to risk it. Slightly confused though, will they test him when he goes for the visa?

No they wouldn't but he doesn't want to get unwell and not be able to make it

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Lifeisanillusion · 21/12/2022 09:32

gothmothtime · 21/12/2022 09:28

If it's an LDR how long would he have to travel to see you for only 1 day? If you're working Christmas Eve and Boxing Day.

He was supposed be coming down for 9 days

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Lifeisanillusion · 21/12/2022 09:33

StreamingCervix · 21/12/2022 09:30

What’s the plan when he moves to America? Is this the relationship slowly coming to an end?

He is not moving there. He's going for a conference but because he is not a British citizen he needs a visa

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PumpkinTruffle · 21/12/2022 09:34

PumpkinTruffle · 21/12/2022 09:20

Surely he can catch covid anywhere anytime though? I mean, especially at work! So I don't see why he can't spend one day with you unless he's self isolating for the next two months.

I didn't realise your family currently have covid. Then if that's the case I also would not want to potentially catch it

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