DP works until 9pm every night. I’ve made him dinner, he gets in - eats it and leaves the dirty dishes in the kitchen. Falls asleep on sofa. We have 2 children. Oldest DD is usually still awake when he gets home, so he does put her to bed. DD and DP have a ‘bond’ - and I feel I’m often talked about behind my back/Mummy is wrong to say that etc etc. I’m constantly annoyed with DO because he doesn’t do or organise anything. Whether it’s school, days out, activities with the children - he relies on me to tell him what’s going on. Youngest DS is awaiting an ASD diagnosis. He has no clue about any of it, unless I point out that he should really show some interest. Then he makes an ‘effort’ to ask - but default is no interest. He does do DIY tasks, but household tasks are all left to me.
DD just wants to play computer games all day, or glued to her phone. I monitor both - but am just met with rudeness and told I’m strict or made to feel like the bad person. Tried yesterday to engage in Christmas crafts, trip to the park - but it was a horrible battle. She appears to have no joy in anything. No effort to do sports/hobbies etc. She leaves sweet papers, wrappers all around the house - despite me constantly telling me to put them in bin (similar to DP, I found his cake wrapper tucked down the side of the sofa yesterday). Last night I moaned that DP wasn’t back at it was 8pm - she told me it was my fault and that I’m always complaining. It feels like DD and DP are very similar and are ‘ganging up’ on me - although I know that sounds ridiculous.
I feel DD and DP show me no respect whatsoever. And I just want to stop trying.
DS is only 3 - but by contrast is just so happy, he follows me around and helps me tidy.
I currently feel like giving up and just leaving DP and DD to their own devices. It’s the total lack of empathy/respect for other people. Even a letter to Father Christmas from DD was a list of demands, and she shouted at me when I said there needs to be at least be one please or a thank you. I’m fed up with the battles and arguments, reminders, being shouted at.
DP’s parents both have recently tested positive for Covid, he wants them both here for Xmas. I then have to visit my Mum who is alone and CEV. Her needs don’t seem to be part of the thought process here.
My current thoughts now are to go to my Mum’s with DS before his parents arrive. Let DD, DP and his parents all have their selfish Xmas together - and I’ll just spend Xmas with DS and my Mum.