Worried for the future after LTR breakup (7 years)-please somebody give me hope

[Lostandconfused27]

So I posted a while ago about the ending of my relationship of 7 years (I broke up with him but we weren't making each other happy).
We broke up due to a pretty dead sex life (me asking him for sex and feeling very unattractive-his low libido due to long term depression). The other reason was lack of communication, he has an avoidant attachment style and struggles to talk about emotions-whenever I tried to he just shut down and didn't say anything, which made me feel very isolated and alone.

We were however the best of friends, got along great, shared the household chores, were the biggest support to each other. It might just be the time of year but I miss the relationship.

We still live together, looking to move out from one another in the new year. It's only been 5 months.

Did anyone else breakup a relationship like this and move on to something else? Are you happy now? I've got this fear that I will never love someone else like I love him. We are 27 by the way, together since 20.

I thought you were going to say you were a lot older than that! I got together with my DH when I was about 10 years older than you are now. Plenty of time to kiss a few more frogs. And no rush! Like you, I felt utterly devastated by my first 'serious' breakup even though we were both too young and too incompatible for the relationship to have a chance. It took a while to heal but I did. completely.

And no you won't love anyone else like you love him, but you will almost certainly love someone (or if you are anything like me, several ones) just as much (if not more), in different ways, and hopefully there will be one who you love and are loved by in ways that make you both happy for much longer (happily married here still, after nearly 30 years together)

Ah thanks, this reassures me a bit. Did you ever feel like you wanted to go back? I do at the moment which I never expected. I imagine it's a comfort thing but I'm not sure.

He started dating someone else kid of as we were splitting up. It was agony for months, many months. Of course I wanted him back even though I had instgated the split!

But she was clearly 'the one' for him and they stayed together until he sadly died a few years ago. We became good friends, she was lovely and they were well suited and very happy, as are me and my dh.

27! You’re practically still a baby, years left to find happiness. Good luck OP.