Am I needy?

[Mammymanic]

OK need opinions, not judgement please, so In relationship 11years plus, kids and engaged to be married...... I just wana know does anyone always want to go out with there partner, everytime a night Is planned I always try and include him even girls nights I rarely go, unless boyfriends go, so then he can,... But with him he has no problem going on nights himself, don't get me wrong he's a good man, very family oriented, but we sometimes see things different....... For instance... Last weekend was his friends 30th birthday and everyone was getting together for drinks but he had to work so I decided against going myself because I felt bad on him missing out, so then I heard after work he called in to everyone (he works in a pub so got there at 3)mean while I'm at home??? Like my point is if he had said oh il call in after I would have went nd just caught up with him later..., but he had said he wouldn't be going he would be coming straight home as he had work again tomrow, but he went...... Am I wrong or is he wrong?? I know to some this sounds pretty.

Do you work? Do you have your own hobbies and interests outside of the couple? Does he pull his weight with stuff in the house and kids?

Unless there is some trauma in your past that has made you like this, it sounds like you've maybe lost yourself and your confidence a bit and you rely on him to make you feel safe but I think in the back of your mind you know this is not a healthy place to be and you know that it's a bit risky to be overly reliant on one person for all their needs.

It's normal and healthy to want to do things and aee people outside the relationship. People who have friends and interests and passions are interesting. If I was with someone who wanted me with them all the time and didn't want to do anything without me I'd feel suffocated.

Try and push yourself to do things without him, even small things at first like go to a coffee shop and read a book. Meet friends. Join a club, find your passion, volunteer. You will gain more confidence as you go.

I’ve got a friend like this and it eventually split our friendship group because she kept on bringing her bf. In the end we stopped arranging meet ups because we couldn’t stand him being there.