Am I wrong?

[Hopelesslywondering]

I'm genuinely starting to think that I might be crazy...

I had a situation with my DH the other day where I asked a question and he snapped at me. I had no idea what I said would be taken the way he took it, however he says how could anyone of took it any other way. This type of thing happens alot, pretty much everyone we fall out, he ends up telling me that it's the tone in which I say things or how I word things. I'm starting to second guess how i am and if I am actually that bad a communicating.
Advice needed please.

A little insight into the most recent situation. My DH has been poorly for a week and still isn't 100%. I've been feeling worn-out as we have a toddler and have been holding down the fort.
He has been saying that he would like to go to a Christmas market and is really hoping to be well enough to go to one.
In the car he started feeling worse again and I said "I guess we probably won't be able to go to (a particular) Christmas market?" I meant this as a query to see how I'll he was feeling and whether he had any plans in his mind and also as we'd have to arrange our little one to be looked after. He snapped back and said "it's not like I'm not trying to get better" in a abrupt tone.

Impossible to say without hearing that.
Is he touchy, are you abrasive in delivery, it could be either.
My sister rubs people up the wrong way all the time but just can't see why. She asks reasonable things but manages to do it in a critical/confrontational way.
On the other hand some people are so sensitive and will take almost anything the wrong way, I've known a few of those.
Based on what you've said I'm not sure.
If you don't get this with other people, that would be a clue for you that it's him not you.

Thanks for your response.
No I don't tend to get this from others, only him, but it seems to be everytime we have any misunderstanding of miscommunication. I don't know how to handle it because when I've tried to say I think you're taking it the wrong way he's adamant that he's not and it's me and how I talk to the point where he gets extremely angry at me

"said "I guess we probably won't be able to go to (a particular) Christmas market?""

Personally, I wouldn't see this as a query on how I was feeling / if I had plans in mind etc. Written down it comes across as perhaps a bit passive aggressive depending on tone?

If my DH was feeling worse I'd be asking if he was okay or needed anything, rather than phrasing it around us not being able to do an activity.

Like PP I have a relative who rubs people the wrong way - they tend to phrase things perhaps more in an accusatory way, but even when they say something normal, the way they talk is so confrontational it always sounds worse!

If no one else thinks this of you, and you communicate the same way with everyone then perhaps your DH is more sensitive?

I can see how it would come across like I wasn't caring about him but an activity. It wasn't like that at all. It has been something that has been coming up in conversation throughout the past few days. More him as he's the one that really wants to go.
I think my concern is more that this is a reoccurring situation where it is my fault in his eyes and my communication skills as opposed to him seeing that maybe he took it in the wrong way, however if the shoe was on the other foot he'd be adamant that I was being over sensitive because I struggle with anxiety.

Sorry, I would interpret your question as snarky and passive aggressive, as though you are annoyed with him for being ill. But then I can also be quite sensitive to criticism - is your husband quite sensitive usually?

It sounds quite passive aggressive to me. I can see why he was snappy.