Following an onlyfans girl

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I've been with my partner coming up a year. He's never given me any reason to not trust him, and he makes me feel so loved and content when I'm with him. We have an amazing sex life and really really great chemistry, I've never experienced this with anyone else.

He doesn't follow many people on Instagram, and I won't lie I check every so often just for peace of mind. Yesterday I noticed he had followed a private Instagram which was of a girl who does onlyfans and it's advertised as 18+ adult content. Now, this didn't necessarily bother me to start with as I don't see it as any different to porn really and I wouldn't care if he watched porn, but now this girl has followed him back. His account is private so he's had to accept her.

I'm now left feeling anxious and like they must be speaking?? Why else would she follow him? Where did he find her in the first place? She only has a few thousand followers, so she's not an only fans mega star and follows the same amount of people that follow her, minus about 800.

Trouble is I have absolutely no way of finding out and I can hardly say to him I've been spying on his Instagram following.. help!

Why else would she follow him?
That's called marketing! Whatever industry you're in, following your followers is essential if you want them to continue being customers. (As a sole trader. Obviously not if you're the head of HR at Widgets Inc.)

He's never given you reason not to trust him but you don't. Why?

I'd question him on it. Who cares whether you looked at who he follows - that's not as concerning as following naked women IMO.

Yeah this would be the instant ick for me.
Following perfect women.. bet she's younger too.

Anyone they follow on instagram is public knowledge, don't feel bad about telling him, I always wonder why men do this and think that their partner and everyone one else isn't going to see it or perhaps he doesn't care. He's interested or has been paying her sadly.

Here's the thing, I totally wouldn't care if he was subscribed to her onlyfans and was paying for porn, as long as there was no chatting between the two of them, requesting specific content, etc. I am a porn watcher, I can't be disgruntled at him for watching it too. But, I genuinely don't think he would pay for porn.

My main concern was them communicating, which is why I wasn't bothered until I saw she's followed him back as then it occurred to me the possibility of them actually communicating was higher and I find Instagram more personal then onlyfans. Although, as a PP has said she will have probably only followed him for marketing reasons.

Then the irrational part of my brain is saying surely if he's followed her, he's done that for a reason and if she contacted him he would reply wouldn't he? Depending on the content of her message, if it appeared generic maybe not but if it's more personal then he might.

Also, not that it makes any difference but she appears to be older then both of us.

I guess you can never give someone 100% of your trust, as even the most trust worthy people can do things that are deemed questionable IMO. And this is one of those questionable moments.

I check his following out of pure nosiness, and not because I think he's been chatting to a local girl in the pub and then gone to follow her on insta. Although, he never even goes to the pub so not likely to happen anyway!

Just because she followed him back, it doesn't mean she will have messaged him too.

It's more than likely marketing! You'll probably find she will unfollow him after a while - that's how these accounts work.

I wouldn't like this either if it was me. However thinking rationally she's probably only after the money. Especially if she follows list of her followers back

If you’re fine with porn, not sure how this is any different? Her following will be marketing. Doesn’t sound like you trust him though?

Nah your fella watching porn to get off is completely different to them following someone on Instagram. So disrespectful

Have you women ever heard of liberation! You don't have to worry about his every move, you can stop fricking stressing about a man, they are not the bee all??

My understanding of Onlyfans is that a big part of the job is messaging and to and fro with men in order to engineer an illusion of intimacy. It's the girlfriend experience men pay for, as much as the pics/videos.

Don’t worry, my guess is she’s just wanting the money and hopes following him back will get another subscriber

Yes I thought this is the main draw for only fans. Like paying for a cam girl rather than just watching porn. Or a private dance in a strip club verses just watching the strippers with everyone else.

I thought one of the 'pluses' is that you message them and they create content just for you or thanks/mention you so you can pretend they fancy you or have some interest in you.
So Steven from Crawley thinks he's a big shot with the ladies and has something special in his life?

(I've never been on only fans, but this was my impression of what the platform is used for?)

Screenshots and say this makes me feel shit
lets discuss please

you have no other options x

Well, if you’re okey with porn, I don’t really see what the problem is here.

At least in this case the woman knows who has her material and is jerking off to it, I’m hoping this is truly something she’s consenting to.

It’s highly unlike that a woman good looking enough make money on it would want some saddo, literal wanker, from the internet.

Even without the messaging it's disgusting.

Why don’t you just tell him you noticed and it has bothered you.