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Libido surge - peri-menopause?

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McLennonK · 16/12/2022 21:45

I'm 48 and haven't really had any menopause symptoms except for periods becoming a bit heavier and closer together and one cycle of 73 days earlier this year. I presume it'll all kick off properly in the next year or so.
One thing that has happened in the last 8 months or so is that my libido, never very huge, (about 2-3 times a month and sometimes a bit reluctantly but fine once warmed up), has really done a 180.
Now I'm all over my DH, 3-4 times a week, have even tried it on at 6 am when I know I've got to get up for work, or at midnight when we are both knackered but I get a surge of energy and a "who cares" attitude to the tiredness! I feel like a teenage boy. Have even got home from work and locked my bedroom door to have a "few private minutes" to myself! 🤦🏼‍♀️
Have become more adventurous and confident too, I find more stuff sexy and think about sex A LOT.

To be honest, I don't really mind it but am wondering if it's normal, do I have a huge hormone imbalance or something? Or is this a pre-menopause surge for my body to try and get pregnant before it's too late? DH has had the snip so it's not going to happen but of course my ovaries don't know that.
Anybody else exhausting their partner? He's not complaining and I've warned him it probably won't last forever!

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redastherose · 16/12/2022 22:21

It's perfectly normal, enjoy it while it lasts Smile I definitely had the same, I'm 52 and it's fading bit now.

OldFan · 16/12/2022 22:36

People do say this- I don't see how there would be a physical reason for it, but it can be the mind realizing you're coming into the last few years before your sex drive is at risk of tailing off, so you feel you need to take the most of it.

Good that your DH lights your candle and can help scratch your itch. :)

SpringCalling · 16/12/2022 22:41

I'm 52 and got a ridiculously high libido. luckily also got a new man so currently it's a win.

blueshoes · 16/12/2022 22:45

Yes, I did. Did not last. Now I am so calm and above it all.

McLennonK · 16/12/2022 22:56

Thanks all, interesting to know it does happen! I'm hoping it does last, because a) I'm enjoying it and b) I think having regular orgasms must be good for you!
Not sure what I would do if someone told me it really wasn't normal and to consult a doctor... that would be an embarrassing conversation. "So... it seems I've turned into an absolute raving nympho".

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McLennonK · 16/12/2022 22:57

Sounds like everything is rosy then! Good for you !🐱 Not sure what I'd do if I was single... Tinder or something I suppose. Eek.

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NorthAngel · 23/01/2023 17:43

Yes, happened to me. I ended up with another man after a long sexless marriage. Changed my life!!

NorthAngel · 23/01/2023 17:45

Oh, and it never tailed off to nothing. I’m more sexual than I ever was. Not horny crazy like I was 5 years ago but definitely more sexual! But, probably because someone passionate woke me up from a deep sleep!

Fenella123 · 23/01/2023 17:50

Entirely normal, enjoy it while it lasts. I really miss those happy days, but sadly now my body needs a much longer run up.
It will also be healthy for your other half as increased ejaculation lowers the risk of prostate cancer !www.health.harvard.edu/mens-health/ejaculation_frequency_and_prostate_cancer

MingeofDeath · 23/01/2023 19:03

Enjoy it while you can. My libido is non existent 😥

McLennonK · 27/01/2023 20:11

Well I'm very happy for you! Long may it last.

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McLennonK · 27/01/2023 20:12

Well, he'll be happy to know that, I'm sure. 😆

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McLennonK · 27/01/2023 20:14

Sorry to hear that. I used to find that having a couple.of glasses of wine woke mine up a bit but it's probably not the most healthy option.

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Ineedaslap · 27/01/2023 21:32

NorthAngel · 23/01/2023 17:43

Yes, happened to me. I ended up with another man after a long sexless marriage. Changed my life!!

Same here! At 54!! Now living with the chap (he's 10 years younger than me, not sure if that's a factor) and about to remarry.

Like you mine hasn't tailed off at all, I have found my inner sexuality like never before tbh. I think the fact I know I can't get pregnant now helps as well.

Enjoy it OP!

Benjispruce4 · 26/02/2023 10:49

I had the same op from late 40s. Always had a decent libido but it went off the scale. DH was very happy! I’m now post menopause at 51 and after a dip when I had some symptoms, it’s back but not as voracious 😂. I am so relieved as all you hear are stories of the worst outcomes. Enjoy!

Dery · 26/02/2023 11:02

My libido also increased during and since menopause (I’m mid-50s now and haven’t had a period for a few years). Not as lively as yours but I’m definitely more naturally frisky whereas before it was very reactive. For me, I wonder whether it’s the knowing there is no risk of pregnancy which has done it. I don’t take HRT or anything so it’s just happened naturally.

Benjispruce4 · 26/02/2023 11:35

@Dery I have never taken HRT either. DH had snip years ago so pregnant hasn’t been a worry for 10 years. I think maybe it’s more time without DC in the house! 😀

Seriously79 · 26/02/2023 17:54

I'd like some of that OP. I'm 44 and sex drive ran for the hills a while ago!

Enjoy!

chatelai · 26/02/2023 19:04

Absolutely.
A bit crazy at first, has settled down now but still definitely better than 30s and 40s. For clarity and because I think it's an interesting correlation, also not taking HRT. Becoming expert on lube!

McLennonK · 11/06/2023 12:32

Quick update, all good here, things have calmed a little, the spontaneous 6am shags are no more, and the midnight ones less often! Am getting a coil soon to deal with my frequent heavy periods so will be interesting to see if that makes a difference, as it gives a small dose of progesterone.
Also feeling less of an urge to lock myself in my bedroom during the day... I just go to bed early if I feel like it and can't be arsed to involve the husband 😆 He is still happy but a bit less tired, bless him.

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Oopsiedaisyy · 11/06/2023 12:47

49 here and if i don't have sex twice a day when DP is over i sulk 😂

McLennonK · 11/06/2023 13:14

Oopsiedaisyy - quite right too! 😄

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