Friends partner

[vixsta2001]

Long story short, I'm just looking for other peoples perspective as to whether or not I am expecting my friends partner to do more.

Friend currently has 2 DC from previous relationship, 14 and 16.

New partner on the scene. They are having a baby together, shes 30 weeks pregnant.

Should he be a more active role in the previous dc activities such as drop off and pick ups from clubs, or is him doing literally ZERO in terms of that kind of thing acceptable?

I was there yesterday and she was saying how exhausted she is, she's an older mum and she's ready for bed at 6pm! But that she still had to drive out at 10pm (in minus 3/4) to collect daughter from sport. The drive would have been 45 min round trip.

He just sat there. I was actually gobsmacked that he didn't offer to pick up the daughter, or even pretend to have some interest in helping out some way.
Are MY standards too high? Or is this the norm?

I grew up with a stepfather who was a stand in for my dad. We never called him dad, he didn't cross that boundary but we always had his help and support, because he loved my mum and wanted to be part of the family.

Thoughts please? I want to show her what you all say because to me this is one of a very long list of red flags he owns!

I really don't think picking up and driving a teen step child is too much of a parenting task for a new step parent that you are having a baby with. Presumably you trust them enough otherwise they wouldn't be in your home or have a child with them in the first place. It's an errand or a family chore to support your partner rather than proper parenting of step children. I don't see it as crossing boundaries, I see it as division and unnecessary boundaries and distinctions in a blended family.
When he has his own bio child with your friend, op, he might show greater favouritism between the children :( That's not how to blend things IMO.

I have 2 sons from a previous relationship... now 12 and 8. I have been with my new partner for nearly 5 years and he has a daughter from a previous relationship now 9. We have 2 daughters together... 3 and 11 months. We both treat each others children as we do our own. Both contribute to all aspects of their lives. I think to keep things separate is really unhealthy. Especially as they are expanding the family. Maybe it has been more difficult with the children being older. I don't know. But even so I can't imagine not wanting to help my partner etc. I feel for your friend and hope she has the support she needs.