Hi I’m going to try and keep this as short and sweet as I can.
I've for a gut. We’ve been absolution fine, Infact after so many previous problems (losing parents etc) (also not going into detail about the issues we had but let’s just say not many people would’ve stuck around) me and my partner finally got back on track, moved into a nice new large home with our first child last year. Found out a later I was pregnant with our second.. ok both excited! Our relationship was at a great point (what I thought) anyway started finding searched up women on his Facebook etc as I’ve stated above things was bad and I’ll never have that trust as much as I try and would love too. He got rid of his phone, pregnancy was beautiful he was amazing. Baby is now 10 months old and we’re due our third in march (failed contraception) pregnancy has made me feel rather low and like crap really.
I upgraded my phone about a month ago anyway we’d been FINE, gave him my old phone and last week he was messaging me asking for nudes :/ whilst he was at work, anyway I had an feeling that night, he was on his phone all night and the night after (even took it to the bath to play music) I should’ve have looked but I discovered the day he asked me for photos he had deleted all his search history, took his phone to the bath that night etc. after our second daughter so about 8 months ago he was caught on pornhub on the family’s tablet. I really feel like he’s a secret letch.
anyway for two week nearly now he’s not been his self and I’m not stupid, distant, cold towards me, can’t even have a conversation without him either being engaged in something else (like thinking in space) or snapping at me and screwing his face up, no cuddle, no kisses, no conversation.. I asked him last night about doing some work to the living room after Christmas and he ignored me? I asked him again and he was just like “yeah it’s going to be a nightmare though” with the plans I want.. he’s got no interest all of a sudden. Abit butt hurt too, I’ve never had any thoughtful presents or gifts /birthdays / Christmas .. I’ve really gone out this year so we can have a big Christmas as everything has been so rubbish for everyone lately.. he’s had months to even just get me something cheap but it’s the thought and effort that counts and he hasn’t bothered, this week is his last weekly pay. So I guess it’s another year with me sitting there watching everyone opening presents to not even have anything atall.
Would you be concerned if this was your situation? Please no horrible comments I feel so low already.