DB and his DP sold house and moved into rental

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They split up a while ago, but I thought they were back on track. Both high earners. I think DB is quite controlling financially. Just seems a bit strange to me - to go from ownership to rental?

Could be many reasons. They couldn’t find somewhere else to buy before their sale; their own purchase feel through before the sale; they think the market will fall in 2023-2024 and hope to get a bargain by waiting until then; they want to be in a chain-free attractive position to sellers; they aren’t sure what their future will look (relocation; new jobs; relationship still rocky) and so don’t want to commit to a new purchase right away.

It’s obviously concerning that you think your DB is controlling. Do you ever get the opportunity to speak to his partner alone?

My DM was and still is massively controlling over my dad - emotionally and financially abusive. She spent every single penny they had without allowing him access to accounts and so their house was repossessed to pay off the debt, they now live in rented accommodation. This all happened when I was a teenager.

As pp said try and get the opportunity to speak to his partner alone. I remember one of my dad's work colleagues calling me when I was a teenager to say that he was in pieces at work because someone had asked him how he was.

It might not be anything as dramatic as the above but still definitely worth asking his partner if he's okay.

@ComtesseDeSpair thank you - they’ve actually been there for about a year now. Seems a bit odd that they’d pay rent for so long, and it’s quite a substantial house/not cheap rent. It’s also quite a mess, not clean.

@strawberrysea yes I
am a bit concerned. There is a child in the living there too. It had a really untidy feel - discarded clothes on the floor - and pretty dirty.