CSA Advice needed please

[Daisy1306]

Hi Guys,

New on here and really need some advice.
My ex and i broke up last year and have 2 children together.
I want to go through CSA just so i dont have to deal with the ex any more than i have to but everytime i mention it he says he wants to have the kids 50/50. . But then he doesnt follow this through when i ask him what extra days he would like to see them. He currently has them 1 week night and every other wknd.
Will CSA believe him or look at the evidence that he doesnt make much effort to see them any more than what he already is doing?
Sorry for the essay just super stressed as i feel i have achieved nothing in breaking up from him as still argue and feel stressed from him and we are not even together :(

Thank you xx

He would have to prove he has them 50/50. They're not just going to take his word for it. They've heard all this before. Keep a record of the days he has them - go back as far as you can remember.

Block him on everything but one email address and grey rock any attempts to drag you into arguments especially verbal where you won't have a record. Stop trying to have an adult coparenting relationship cos he's using that to control/piniah you. Parallel parenting might work better.

The best thing I ever did was go through the CSA.
Hes using delay tactics, report all of this to them, let them deal with this idiot.

Thank you both of you for your help :)

Yes my family keep saying this is the only thing he has control over me but he still gets me everytime even when i think i can handle his games.

I do try to keep most things by text so i can back up my story...or his for that matter.

What is parralell parenting?

Thanks xx

I've seen the CSA slated on here, but I found them extremely helpful. As a PP said, they won't just take XP/XH's word for 50/50 - they'll want to see records. My XH was messing me around with maintenance, and letting the CSA take over eliminated the stress. He thought normal rules didn't apply to him.....soon found out they did when the CSA got the maintenance taken out of his wages at payroll 😂!

😂thats brilliant. They defo think they are the ones who control dont they 🙄
Thanks for all your advice. Im going to put in my application. Wish me luck xxx