Fantasies about other men

[passionfruit3]

Sounds bad - don't judge, have never even text another man never mind cheated on my partner. Been with my boyfriend 9 years, things ok, we're up and down a bit previously, two kids, have nice things and holidays to look forward to, nice home, would never jeopardise that.
But. If I see a reallllllllyyyy nice guy, I sometimes imagine again having that passion back, that lust, that love.....
I'm bored? I don't feel the same to my partner as I did in the beginning that's for sure, but obviously now there's that element of unconditional love and care for him. I just fantasies sometimes about that dark romance kinda first stages of pure desire and mystery lust passion and care

Completely normal (I hope!) I often fantasise about other men (and some women). Its not something I talk about with with my DH. Its just for me.

I fail to see what the problem is. You're not dead, you are allowed to have private fantasies and to find other men attractive. What goes on in your mind is your business and it's not cheating.

Completely agree. Fantasies are completely normal, it’s how we choose to act on them that becomes complicated. Sometimes it can be a little boost to get things going

Hope not!

I think a fair few people have fantasies and little crushes on people who are not their partner…. Currently crushing on a guy at work!! … his job is to actively listen to people, men who can actively listen are quite sexy!! (I’m not the only one with this little crush!)