We do have kids.
But we thrashed out our separate responsibilities before they were born.
He does earn much more money and I do much more domestic stuff but he doesn't shirk being a dad.
He pays all bills, mortgage, does investments and pensions.
I do insurance quotes, food household, most cooking, most school stuff, clothes, school uniform, general medical appointments.
He takes them to football (playing not spectating), explains homework, haircuts, some school runs, does the father-son chats, builds stuff, parents evening, helps with homework, loves and listens to their stories, gets involved in present buying, days out arrangements, holidays, has taken one to a&e if one needed to stay with other, read many bedtime stories, makes sure they never take their mum for granted, mends bikes, footballs. Asks about their school days, guides them, is a great male roll model, teaches them by example on how to behave driving, with service in shops, with medical staff.
Not so much now but when smaller bounced, ran, danced, swam, carried, brought car fulls of sticks home, carried precious pebbles, built sandcastles. Still does most barber trips. Teaches them how to tell jokes. Introduces them to new literature, discusses current affairs. Oddly he decorates the Christmas tree. Has been known to teach them the odd recipe baking is a step too far.
He puts them first and foremost is almost everything he does. So I really don't mind washing his socks and making his dinner.