Ended up doing everything as toddler won’t accept Dad. Exhausted.

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I’ve fallen into the trap of doing everything for toddler and now I’m so drained and tired and longing for a break but toddler won’t accept dad … did anyone else experience this? I’m not sure how to break the cycle

Slightly. You just have to not accept their not accepting her dad. Go out if you can, be busy if you can’t (DD vaguely got the concept of ‘mummy has to do the cooking’ surprisingly early.)

They will yell, play up, not eat much and go to bed far later than you’d like for a bit. But your DH has to push through, and you have to stay strong of not interviening. You’ll get there.

Like above poster - grit your teeth and remove yourself. It's going to be hard but your DP needs to be on board. It's really important that he establishes a bond with his child that he can build on and get a proper relationship with them. It's not fair on him otherwise as time goes on your DP will feel like an extra in his kids life.

Yup normal. You need to ride it out. She will howl/ scream etc but she is perfectly safe with her dad. It's really hard to do, but you just need to grit your teeth. We alternated bed/ bath etc.

As they said, you don't accept toddler not accepting dad. Just like if your toddler didn't want to brush teeth or take medication or wanted to eat a dishwasher tablet. Go out, sure she'll cry or scream but she's not in any danger or pain, it's just another tantrum.

Currently in the thick of this with both my 1 and 3 year olds crying for mummy constantly. It's so stressful. The only thing that's helping is keeping my distance as much as possible. So when one is screaming mummy in the middle of the night, letting him deal with it. Getting him to do bathtime while I stay downstairs etc. It's really hard ignoring their cries though when I know they would calm down straight away for me...

Normal but awful.
If it's any consolation, it'll even out and he will be the favoured one at some point.

Dad has to put himself in your place lots of daddy will do it or come with daddy etc etc, and be busy.