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so tired of the situation

6 replies

latetorowing · 12/12/2022 23:14

I will try to be prompt.
Been married for 38 years, never strayed, have various friends both male and female.
My wife is 6 years younger than me.I will also add she doesn't trust me at all.
Over the last 5 years our relationship has become more like husband and mother.
I will elaborate. Virtually everything she says to me is like being lectured by my mother, who passed away 15 years ago. She treats me like a child who can't put one foot in front of the other, everything I do is wrong, yawning, coughing, the occasional sniff(when it's cold) fidgeting, not being able to sit still, being to busy, she will disagree with me at every turn whether she believes what she is saying just to be confrontational, and nags me about what I eat as I am Celiac, like
I can't read ingredients on a packet. I cannot be a man in my own home.
I have spent my whole life working to keep my wife and two children safe, warm,a roof over their heads, holidays when I had none for 25 years.
I know what you are thinking, I ignored her for 38yrs and wasn't a husband to her.
Well I wasn't perfect I admit but, she hasn't had the best of health through the years but I was always there for her, looking after the children, the house, the meals attending all her hospital apps etc, and running her business when she was to ill, as well as running mine.
Her passion was horses and it became my daughters passion as well. I bought them horses, 3 horse boxes each one being an upgrade on the previous one, paid for the running costs, entry fees showing clothes, feed bills and building stables for the ever growing herd.
I did have to put my foot down about 8 years ago after yet another injury I made her sell the horses and stop the string of injuries. She never forgave me for that.
It has now got to the point where we no longer communicate except for the essentials, no longer sleep in the same bed, eat together and watch tv together( I hate tv and watch very little).
Basically I want out, for my sanity.
I care about her a lot, but, love, I really don't know anymore.
Let's open the flood gates to comments, because I have run out of ideas.

OP posts:
GreenManalishi · 12/12/2022 23:22

Sorry, what's the question?

Have you told her that you want a divorce? She might be delighted, considering she's never forgiven you for making her sell all her horses.

If she's half as miserable as you sound, and I think that's likely, you'd be doing her a favour.

Bedazzled22 · 12/12/2022 23:23

Have you told her how you feel?

SteveHarringtonsChestHair · 12/12/2022 23:37

Is she on here? Are you hoping she’ll read this so you don’t have to tell her?!

wineNcheeseifYplease · 12/12/2022 23:40

Wow. Divorce. She'll be so much better off.

Mari9999 · 12/12/2022 23:57

If she treats you like a child, tell her that you have grown up, and you are now launching. From your description, it seems that you are both miserable. She may be relieved that you are ready to put your marriage out of its misery.

Monty27 · 13/12/2022 00:12

Yeh it sounds like you guys have run your course so to speak.

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