Hi, here are the highlights. I’m feeling a bit upset that my family continues to ostracise me.
Parents divorced when I was a teen. Dad disappeared when he had a new girlfriend and only showed up when he got bored and lonely. I saw this, but accepted the scraps of this relationship.
Mum got a new relationship and asked me to leave home a he wanted to move in and felt uncomfortable living with a teenage girl. So I felt had little choice. Fast forward to when I have kids, my mother spends all her time undermining me and telling me I’m a terrible mother. Eventually, after years of this, my husband confronts her about her behaviour to me. She refuses to see me, after this. After a few years she’s decided she forgives me (?) but I decided to remain no contact.
Dad has remained in and out of the picture. I find out he’s a functioning alcoholic and becomes violent to his current wife. When he’s out on a binge I encourage her to contact the police. He was arrested for drink driving and consequently lost his job.
He blames me for his arrest.
The problem is not only have I lost my parents, my aunts, uncles and Grandparents also have cut contact with me.
I have my own family, I have my husband’s family. I can see my family are not particularly great. However, especially at this time of year, I feel a bit sad about it.
I send Christmas cards to my extended family. I get nothing back. I recently found out my Grandma had died but nobody told me.
I can’t help but wonder- is it me?