I'm looking for some female input on why my relationship has broken down.
Brief history. My ex and I met on a night out, ended up going back to a hotel that same night. Both believed it to be just a sex arrangement going forward but both caught feelings and were confessing love for each other within 6 months. She lived with her mother and I lived with parents so we often met at hotels rather than going to each others houses to avoid the meeting the parents thing before it was the right time.
We were very loving, very supportive of each other, the sex was incredible and everything felt peachy for 15 months. It did genuinely feel like it was going places which I know is probably what everyone thinks when in the honeymoon phase but we were both of a similar age, had had previous relationships, knew what we wanted and it all appeared to be in sync.. Then, in an incredibly short amount of time she seemed to switch off claiming mental health issues were causing her 'head to not be in it anymore'. She has told me before that she has struggled in the past and her instinct is to shut out the world to deal with it but I didn't see any signs of this being an issue until this point of our relationship.
I managed to talk her round initially into working on us. I took it very seriously and provided nothing but support in any way I could. Didn't make her feel bad for not wanting to spend as much time together etc and made it abundantly clear I was there for her. We went through two months of this before she finally ended it. Her comment being she can't watch me crumble while she tries to figure out what is wrong with her. Worth mentioning that despite my constant attempts to reassure her, she had an inferiority complex. I was quite different to the men that had been in her life before who were mentally and physically abusive. She was terrified of meeting my parents because she thought they'd think she wasn't good enough for me which was rubbished instantly as my parents loved her when they eventually met. She also, only two weeks before she started this process, after several drinks, was crying into my arms because she was scared I would leave her despite there being no indicators or actions from me that I was planning to do so.
We've been broken up for nearly two months and she is still constantly on my mind and I can't shake the feeling that surely, if what she has said is true, in relation to her reasons for breaking up, that there is something I can say to make her see that I can be there for her and we can come out the other side of this. Then there is the other side of me questioning if there is any point thinking like this and for me to just do what I can to move on. The only contact we've made has been for me to arrange dropping the stuff she had at my house back with her which will be happening soon.
I don't really have any female friends that I'm close enough to to speak to about this so have only really had the views of my mother and sister so hoping to see what others may think.
Do I make some grand play or gesture to try and win her round or just accept that it's over and try to forget about her? I feel like I am still very much in love with her but there is something making me think I only feel like this because I've not had any real closure.