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Just a vent

13 replies

stillvicarinatutu · 11/12/2022 19:29

After a break of 6 months from even looking at on line dating I ventured back into bumble.

Got chatting to a couple of guys .

One seemed very interested, chat was flowing , tells me he has triplets and a slightly older child - ok ....
Then sends the obligatory dick pick. After I said no dick pics thank you.
And then tonight when I haven't answered I get his soapy legs in a bath .
I'm 50 and he is mid 40s . Why. !??

Where does anyone meet anyone decent ?
It doesn't look like it's online. I'm suspending the profile- again

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Igglepiggleslittletoe · 11/12/2022 20:28

I genuinely will never ever understand why men think their dick is something any woman would want a pic of. I know what DP's looks like and it does it's job and all that but do I want a pic sent to me? Eh no. They are not all that attractive to look at. I met my DP on tinder if that helps you at all.

notshort · 13/12/2022 20:06

No advice OP but I can sympathise. I recently got a dick pic sent to me. Not pleasant are they? I'm beginning to think I am just meant to be single.

Someone will be along to tell you that they met their soulmate on a dating site Grin

Zanatdy · 13/12/2022 20:12

Did anyone watch that programme on C4 last night where the journalist was getting dick pics and she challenged them all as to why they’d sent it? Not one sensible reason, let alone excuse. My 18yr old son had just got home from Uni for Christmas and has got his first girlfriend and was watching with me. He couldn’t believe it, I told him this was what women are subjected to. He said his girlfriend was so drunk in a night club the other week he sent his female flatmates to the toilet with her. I said well that’s very sensible as men will see a drunk woman and latch on. That’s exactly what happened next in this programme as the journalist pretended to be drunk outside a club. It is disgusting but sadly not shocking.

colleague is OLD and I asked her if she’s had any dick pics and she hasn’t. She’s a pretty woman / good catch so not sure how she’s got away with it. She’s also had no weird dates either, just guys she’s doesn’t connect with that much. Maybe she’s been lucky. I was considering signing up as been single over a decade and fancied a bit of me time now kids grown up. Then 2 days later an ex colleague I’ve fancied for 3yrs emailed me after seeing him in the office again after covid and asked me for a drink. Saved by the bell!

CuriousEats · 16/12/2022 00:16

Nothing to do with your OP, but I've been thinking about you since your ambulance thread a couple of weeks ago, then it disappeared and comments were closed. Hope you're feeling better now. XFlowers

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stillvicarinatutu · 16/12/2022 05:34

Bless you Flowers

Thank you - I'm on the mend ! Taking some time though ! There's something really nasty doing the rounds causing pneumonia.

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Watchkeys · 16/12/2022 09:47

Can you not just ignore, rather than letting one penis stop your chances of meeting a decent bloke online?

GorgeousKitten · 16/12/2022 10:01

report them and block. maybe try paid OLD like match?

Guyspov · 12/08/2023 09:17

I think it's honest to show you he's wanting a physical relationship. If it's not your cup of tea, move on and save each other some time and heart ache.

Mischance · 12/08/2023 09:20

Guyspov · 12/08/2023 09:17

I think it's honest to show you he's wanting a physical relationship. If it's not your cup of tea, move on and save each other some time and heart ache.

No it's not! - it's pervy!

Guyspov · 12/08/2023 09:25

Each to their own love.

Watchkeys · 12/08/2023 10:39

@Mischance

He's being honest, and he's also being pervy. They're not mutually exclusive.

People seem to think that, for some reason, they're unlucky if they come across people they're incompatible with on OLD. It baffles me. Do they think that Mr Perfect will just be sat waiting for them the second they log on?

CountTo10 · 12/08/2023 11:06

Guyspov · 12/08/2023 09:17

I think it's honest to show you he's wanting a physical relationship. If it's not your cup of tea, move on and save each other some time and heart ache.

No it's not! If someone is on a dating app there is an assumption they would want a physical relationship at some point. If some one desperately needs to say that from the outset (a red flag in itself. I would assume they were just after a shag) an unsolicited dick pic is not the way to go and shows a high level of immaturity.

something2say · 12/08/2023 12:25

It is honest, sating 'I'm sexual' and to be fair, loads of us women lack sex in our relationships and that is something we are looking for - BUT to me it is immature, as the poster above said, and it is lacking consent. 'What had she done, sir, to make you think it was appropriate to show her your genitals?' Simply engaging in online dating is not enough. That's why it's wrong.

It's so interesting to me to have men on this site, as some don't get it and minimise it and seek to lower our standards. Low standards are what prevents dating in my view.

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