Relationships

[Kazzie78]

I've been with my partner for 9 years we have a little girl together. Just recently I have been wishing I was still living on my own I'm fed up of him he's a lazy sod. I'm always the one entertaining our daughter at weekends.

Hey...
so a few years back my other half messaged a girl from work. Sexual stuff. It was before our wedding and our son was small so I let it slide.
Two years later someone told me about it and an apparent other girl (without knowing I already knew about the first) but I had no proof.
This weekend - curiosity got the better of me as I saw a message on his phone from a girl whilst he was asleep. It turns out there were suggestive messages to two girls and there and then I was done. This morning I confronted him and he admitted having sex with one.

I can't forgive this. He wants to save the marriage. But now he's away for a week visiting his parents so we have space. He knows it's the end but he also suffers with being really low and down. Part of me feels bad that he could feel like this. I guess I'll always care for him but I also don't deserve to be treated this way.

I guess I just want some advice and a chat!!

I've been single many years by choice. I've recently met a fantastic man. Only one problem that I can't seem to shake. I'm a vegetarian and he is a cattle farmer and does cattle haulage. Do I go for a man whos job I agree with and be treated like rubbish like in the past or go with this great guy with a horrible job?