Would you ask

[leighqt]

I’m just looking to see what others think of this. Meet a guy we have a mutual friend on FB who I get on well with. Do I ask this mutual friend about him , his character etc

im thinking not.

Why not?

Seems silly not to get the heads up.

You don't have to take everything they say as gospel, but they might save you from a lot of trouble if they said "oh yeah, he's great, and his gf is lovely" or "he's a bit of a shithead when he's drunk".

Why wouldn't you, if you're interested in following up with this guy (seeing him again). Just say to your mutual friend something casual like "Hey, I met Dan the other day. He's a friend of yours isn't he?" and see what they say.

If they reply with "Was he with his wife and kids?" you'll know to avoid. If they say "He's a great guy....." then you know where you are.

It would depend how well I knew the mutual friend.