Me and my fiancé have been together for 6 years. We moved into our house in 2021 after 3 years of saving at my parents house, we where lucky to have lived there rent free whilst we saved.
We have 3 children (one from his previous relationship, one from mine and one son together who is 2) unfortunately due to my past relationship I had bad credit so I wasn’t able to go on the mortgage and am nearly at the end of paying my debts that haunt me from my younger years, but I still put my hard earnt savings into this house to build our future together.
he earns 32k a year
I earn 22k. We split the bills 50/50 despite the fact he earns more and I had more outgoings. We renovated the hole house when we moved in as it wasn’t liveable.
we are currently experiencing some problems in the house that need urgent work and it’s causing a lot of stress but he’s wanting more money from me towards them even though I haven’t got anything spare to give.
He gambles each week (am not sure the exact amount but he’s admitted in the past he has a problem ) and recently he’s just got an more expensive car knowing these things needed doing in the house.
he’s been blowing hot and cold for months one minute he loves me and where happy the next hes telling me he’s not happy, he doesn’t care and doesn’t love me anymore and that the relationship is forced and if I don’t pay anymore I’ve got to leave the house, I’ve tried to explain I already pay more than I can afford which he knows I don’t have money spare every month but he does and wastes it gambling and upgrading his car he simply didn’t need but he’s not compromising atal. I don’t know if it’s down to stress but I just think he’s being so unfair and asking for to much from me. It’s effecting me and my children can see I’m upset and unhappy. When it’s good we are really good but it takes something so small for him to flip and then ignore me for days on end he will just look straight through me and blank me when am trying to communicate. I’ve put a lot of money, time and work into this house, it’s my childrens home, but he’s making me feel so unwanted and pushed out and obviously it’s complicated because I’m not on the mortgage. I’m confused , sad , angry and feel deflated. Any advice or someone who’s been in the same position would be appreciated.