Please help me to chill in relationship

[PrincessMyshkin]

I have had quite a chequered relationship past. However, I have met someone and it's been going amazingly well for 5 months. We see a lot of each other and it's been lovely. Met families and friends, been on trips together, all great.

Tonight I can't sleep and am laid here over thinking and catastrophising. Feeling like I am boring/ not good enough/ clever enough etc. I think a lot of this comes from a very critical upbringing, school bullying etc. Also I am new in town so don't have anything like the social life I usually have here hence feeling quite isolated apart from the relationship.

How do I stop doing this and relax? For what it's worth, I am in my mid 30s and want children so it feels quite high stakes.

You need to ramp up your new social life so that you're not sitting around !

Join some clubs or classes, ask workmates out for lunch/coffee etc

Once you're busy socially, you'll feel you have so much more to say/do/offer.

Thanks, I think you're bang on the money! He has loads of interests and local friends and to be honest, I haven't really got close to anyone yet. It makes me feel a bit dull although I've had a full life until now, lots of stories, travel, experiences. I need to get some of that back to feel like myself.