Is there any hope for a man with this type communication style ..

[notmyscene]

To get to the point and not waste your time, when we disagree he gets angry and defensive, barges off, ignores me , gives me silent treatment.I chase ,we make up and it's all brushed under the carpet until the next time.The intervals get shorter and shorter.He gets particularly mad if he is in the wrong and has been confronted. Lately he has turned things round so it feels like I'm in the wrong, even when I absolutely have not.I feel that I can't address any issue with him without this pattern and this is the crux of the issue.It's become a pattern but only kicked in after 18 months together. He is also very attentive, punctual,spends all his spare time with me,kind and affectionate.He is 48.

In my experience no. My ex did this all the time. Only I didn’t chase, I refused to. He once didn’t speak to me for 6 whole weeks. For some pointless argument. He claims to have changed, I spoke to him around 3yrs ago to tell him our son had told me he didn’t like the way his dad spoke to him sometimes and he was very upset that he had made his son feel this way, spoke to him, apologised and made an effort to change. We are still friends and until recently went on family holidays together. My ex then ignored our son for a whole day as he didn’t like something he did. I went ballistic with him, told him there’s no way he’s doing that to our son. He claimed it was better to address this issue when not on holiday hence he ignored it. No, it’s really not better to make your son feel like shit all day. So no, I don’t think people generally change when they do this.