I'm 2 weeks post op major abdominal surgery. I've managed to get in the shower it's a shower over bath, I needed help getting out DH went downstairs to get something to eat and said wait while I was freezing cold. If I ask him for anything he groans and moans. The house looks a state so I got a grabbing aid to pick stuff up and tidy, DH refused to put the bags outside said later. I'm not allowed to lift over 1kg so I did it anyway.
He even moaned when he had to bring the shopping in after a home delivery so I got a chair and attempted to put as much of it away myself. although I'm knackered and swollen. To be honest this experience has made me question my whole marriage. If I had a life changing injury or long illness he wouldn't be supportive would he? He's saying it's really hard on him looking after the house I understand that but I would do the same. My DD aged 9 has been a little star and not well herself.. A 9 year old has more empathy than a grown man 😢. I feel like just an appliance who is only useful when in full working order.