Business Partner ?

[Cuppatea12]

Hi I have had 2 dates with a really nice guy he loves locally and has own business , but he bought a property pre-covid , with a woman and they live in the property together ..... I have visited his place but not met her as only 2nd date . They are hoping to sell the property in the next year but meantime will stay
living there , she has a boyfriend he says , am I being too wary to question this arrangement and should i go on another date with him ?

If his business partner was male, would you be having qualms?

fwiw, I bought my first flat in tandem with a male friend (I am f.) Nothing between us but comradeship & financial expediency. We shared the flat for 4 years, I then bought him out, & he went & bought a new flat, solo. It was a great arrangement.

As you don't know this guy at all yet, why not wait to find out how the land lies, rather than making assumptions?

am I being too wary to question this arrangement
No - it's sensible to question everything that occurs to you about a man you don't yet know.
But until you've 1) met her 2) been able to check out of she does have a b/f as your date has told you 3) observed the dynamic between them - why pre-judge?

and should i go on another date with him ?
Can't possibly tell you.
Do you WANT to go on another date with him? Then do it!
Do you NOT want to go on another date with him? Then don't!

If you've visited his place, surely there would be signs if she was actually his girlfriend? Was her stuff in his bedroom, for instance?

Okay that makes sense your right i would have no qualms if it was a male , he has been upfront and honest telling me about his arrangement , just new to me nice to hear others do it , and yes i do want to go another date with him thankyou

7Fchristmas tree no there was no signs of her stuff in his room good point never thought of that , call me paranoid !

Having said that, unless you opened the wardrobes in our bedroom, the room could easily be mistaken for a bachelor bedroom!

and yes i do want to go another date with him thankyou

Well that's lovely OP - have fun, take things slowly, don't over-invest ... & pay attention to your instincts, without becoming suspicious for no good reason. Sorry, that's quite a list now I read it back! - so let's prioritise it: HAVE FUN!

Kettricken Smilled , thankyou for taking the time to read my paost and offer some really sound advice , yes gut instinct is the thing , I do hope to have fun the nicest guy I have met in a very long time ! hugs to you!

While I never bought a house with a man who wasn't DH, I did house share with a number of men over the years. With one, we lived together for about 3 years and are still very good friends. Others were more transitory.

I wouldn't personally consider this a huge red flag. And if you went the house, it think it's quite easy to tell if it's a couple of house share. It's obvious in the pictures and decorations - most couples have at least a few photos up of them together and/or with extended family for example. So it does sound like this is a perfectly legitimate financial and house sharing arrangement. It's only date 2 so the chances are you will meet her at some point - mos likely over coffee one morning or when you come back after an evening out!

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No there was nothing personal like photographs of them together , thanks for your input and sage advice feeling abit happier now with the lovely replies I have had just been awhile since I have dating, am out of practice lol !