What is left unsaid says more than that which is said

[geraniumsandsunshine]

Let me take the baby from you.
Would you like a cup of tea?
You're doing really well- keep going
I love you
You'll feel better soon
How was your day?
You look beautiful.

Those things are never said, so I have to use my inner voice to look after myself but now, after many years, I'm beginning to see the effects of this emotional distancing on me. It feels like abuse almost. And I'm tired.

Are you ok? Would you like to talk more about what’s going on?x

Just struggling generally and wondering if the r complete and utter lack of emotional support is making me worse. I think it is. I want to be a child again and curl up without any worried

It must feel incredibly lonely.

I don’t know what your situation is, but you don’t have to stay in a relationship like this.

Lack of emotional recognition and support is soul destroying. How long have you been together?

I do need to stay for now as I am barely functioning and although there is no emotional support I need the practical and financial. If I were to leave I might just throw myself under a bus. It's lovely but it's day by day

Been together over a decade

Hi Op

Do you work?
Do you have any family?
Do you have any personal space at your home when you can spend some time on your own?

Sending hugs x

You're message really hits home.
You are doing a great job OP and just because it's not the voice you want saying it to you - you have your own voice and listen to it.
Stay strong, have a moment to reflect on everything you have achieved today without hearing these words from someone else.
You are doing a great job.
Self love and reaching out on here is a great start.
Sending best wishes xx

Is he the only person close to you? Do you have family and friends? Lack of love from one person is very painful but bonds with others can help fill the gap.

Maternity leave now but back to work soon. Which may be a blessing in some ways