Is it too much to ask?…

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For my parents to be happy for me. I don’t know if I’m overreacting?

I’ve been in a new relationship for 2 months now and it’s been going so well. I’m so happy and he treats me extremely well.
I was heartbroken earlier this year as well.

My parents are generally strange about a lot of things. But I really just didn’t expect their reaction.
We both still live with our parents still (I’m moving out very soon to rent with a friend) and I’ve been staying at his because they haven’t made me feel as if he is welcome yet.

Just a few little things:

Mum asked me tonight “so this guy of yours, are you seeing each other or has he done the whole girlfriend thing”. I said we’re together and there was no reaction.
She then asked if he was good looking, I said he is and that he’s very tall and she said “ffs why are you with someone so tall”.
She then asked what he does for work, I explained he’s in work but figuring out his career and she sighed.
She made a snide comment of “you’re never here anymore” even though I only stay at his 2 times a week.
She then just kept saying “make sure he’s not using you for sex, boys are liars and they’re all the same”.

I then said i just wanted her to be happy for me - she swore at me and said “of course I want you to be happy I’m just being realistic”.
I mentioned that she told me she’s happy for my sister.
She then said, because I often talk about my problems with her a lot, and my sister doesn’t, she only says these things to me.

I understand her being protective but it’s just so draining. How nice would it be to just have a “awww happy for you” or “how exciting!”

Am I overreacting?

Bump as I feel super sad

Hi OP, are you the youngest? I wonder if you're mum is sad at the thought of you leaving? I guess she probably needs to meet your boyfriend at some point and then she won't have to ask "is her good looking" etc.
I have a sister similarly to you and I know my parents worried about her less because she was more of a stable teenager than I was. I think your parents are just worried about you and want you to make the right decisions, I guess you just need to be with your bf long enough to prove he is a good guy (unlike your last one?) and if she meets him too hopefully she'll trust the situation a bit better..

Your mum is looking out for you, she's not your friend to say aww happy for you.
Her style may be a bit brash, negative and course but it could well be realistic. I don't understand her comment about his height. IF your mum knew you had a bad history in relationships, it's normal for her to be cautious.
The relationship is brand new, why would you be sad that your mum is cautious and warning you about a guy you hardly know? It would be irresponsible of her to be encouraging a relationship with a boy she hasn't even met and a relationship of 2 months. Sorry but your mum is right.

When you say you were heartbroken earlier this year, did it really badly affect you - could your mum be worried about your behaviour if you get hurt again?

Swearing at you seems bizarre - when you say your parents are strange about things, what do you mean by that?

Perhaps it's best if you don't discuss everything in as much detail with your mum, and talk more with friends about relationships and that sort of thing instead.