I have just come out of an 8 year relationship and need some Clarity and advice . Have one child together aged 5 . My ex was ok day to day worked hard paid his way but didn’t pay half he give me 100 per week towards home , I have my other son from previously relationship and his GF who both pay there way also both working . My ex seems to create drama or moan about the slightest things and needed a status of him being the man of the house and I should back him up with everything like everything was a war , he has argued with all my other children over small issues which were mammoth to him , like if kids ordered a take way not asking us ( most of the time they asked ) or if my sons girlfriend had tea he said he was not feeding others even when his family come around for tea , he spent 180 per week on weed ( smoked this outside ) and was chaos with his finances so we could never be inclusive like w proper couple , he was also still married so I wouldn’t not get a mortgage , he married to a Thai national in Thailand years ago and struggled get w divorce , I done everything for him he asked supported him in life with work , helped with his drama and passions care for him on a daily basis cooked cleaned , he done the garden and I work full time … the main issues were when we argued over issues in the house he would target me and if I didn’t agree or had an opinion he became very abusive body shaming being vile towards me also this would get so bad I ask him to leave , this has happened loads and loads of time and he has been back , this time he has continued with the vile abuse by message and calls he has physical booted me in anger threw his car keys at me causing bruising , phoned my work place and made up lies to embarrass me he says this because he is homeless , he was at his dads but he had a fall out and now he is staying in hotels paid by the council and is registered homeless .. I feel bad about this but he ha continued to be vile abusive and put me down about my body my private parts , and wish me dead and raped all kinds .. should I feel bad for his situation , he blames other people all the time he even said he feeds people who are still here now like my sons GF yet he is homeless , but he is homeless because of himself , I feel so bad but should I really ???