I knew my boyfriend a while before we got together. He had so much energy and we had lots of adventures. About 2 months ago he banged his head. It recovered after 6 weeks then he banged his head again getting something out of the back of the car. He has had head injuries in the past which is why it takes him a while to recover.
Last week he injured his ankle at work but won't report it. He is tired now and he said if he goes off sick to recover in December they will displicine him as he works in a warehouse and it's their busiest time and need the staff. If he reports the work related injury a week later he will be disciplined and sacked as he delayed reporting a work related injury before at work and was told these are the conquences next time.
He has Aspergers and ADHD and has admitted he lacks special awareness. I don't think he should be working in a warehouse as he has had so many injuries. They refuse to give him an office role as they can't retain warehouse staff. He has been there 14 years so they rely on him.
I have been playing rescuer getting him remedies, making him juices, bring massage chairs and foot machines round, lending my walking poles. He doesn't really eat much but does not realise he needed to eat properly to heal so I do him juices and take round when I see him as I feel I am negligent if I don't. He keeps taking medication which gives him side effects, had energy drinks full of caffeine and would spray air freshener all round his house so it's no surprise he has been ill, he is slowly stopping using these after finally listening. He keeps saying I deserve better than a broken man. It is getting a bit off putting now.
I am worried about him as he said he is depressed/feels low and scared about losing his job. I have told him not to worry as he should believe in himself more and would get another job. I keep telling him his health is priority. He is stressed and can't relax and is having sleepless nights. I partly know how he feels as I had a stressful job which made me ill and got sacked for having time off to recover from physical ailments.
He has told friends and family but they throw it back in his face telling him he should have left his job years ago. So he gets no support there plus a lot of them suffer ailments so don't want to hear his.
I really care about him but the ailments just put a strain on the relationship and it is not as fun though we still laugh. People have said I should not take on this baggage. I feel it would be wrong to end a relationship so near to Christmas when he feels low. He has said he has had injuries before and he will recover. Are there any agencies I can signpost him too? I just haven't got the energy or full knowledge to help him and it's not my job to either. Just struggling a bit to see if the relationship will go back to how it was.