Hi all before approaching my partner in relation to a late night phone call he made to a massage parlour on a boys weekend away I wanted to get some advice on the best way to approach.
So my partner goes away once a year for a boys weekend on the Gold Coast and has done so for the past 8 years that I have known him. I have not had an issue with it as he has always been really open with me in the past and was happy to discuss all the antics they would get up to.
this year however, felt very different as he was not open about what they did over the 4 day weekend of drinking gambling and partying. just said he had a good weekend.
I felt he was hiding something from me as over the past 18 months he has been very secretive and not telling me things he would normally bring up in casual conversations. He no longer talks to his friends around me and all conversation’s are done away from me.
After a few weeks of feeling something was off, I decided to check our phone bill. And while he was away, 10 minutes after calling me, at 11:00 at night he rang a massage parlour. I started to talk to him today about the weekend away and if he spoke to or met anyone other than the regular boys - and that is when he told me He caught up with a women he had previously tried to sleep with (although he claims that she was there with her new boyfriend) but he did not tell me this at the time. Would you class this as lying by omission? Which by the way I was told that there is a no women policy over the weekend and I’m not allowed to go…. But it is ok for another women to meet up with him on a boys only weekend?
he said that was the only person he met up with. I have not mentioned the massage parlour yet as I’m afraid to know the truth…. Although I think I’m more afraid of him lying to me saying it was a misdial. What if I have an STD? Am I jumping the gun?