Like he literally has no photo of me. If I get abducted, the police would have to ask someone else
😂😂😂
I like your style OP! - graveyard humour so helps with keeping perspective.
Had trouble with minor trust issues since the start. He quickly said he was besotted with me, didn’t want to continue chatting/seeing anyone else. So I deleted all contact with others. And with exes at his request. He said he’d done the same but was still chatting to a girl he met online. Still in contact with his ex behind my back for a year (I had no issue with that just wanted honesty).
You should always have an issue with hypocrisy OP.
He expects you to dispense with all other romantic interests, demands exclusivity from you, but gives himself carte blanche to do exactly the opposite.
And the dishonesty should be a dealbreaker - if you can't trust him not to lie, you have no foundations for a healthy relationship.
Other minor things like this too. Is it normal relationship shite? I don’t know any more. I don’t know if I’m expecting too much or I’m being disrespected.
No, it's not normal to be lied to, or to stay with a partner who has revolting double standards. Why on earth do you feel like you are expecting too much? You are expecting only what he expects from you.
Why do you feel that it's ok for him to demand loyalty & exclusivity from you, but deliberately withhold that from you?
Ah! - here's a clue why ...
He’s said I don’t make him feel loved.
DARVO'ing bullshit.
www.banyantherapy.com/darvo/
Standard tactic of the liar & cheat.
He is trying to blame YOU for HIS actions.
For me I think it’s the lying I have an issue with. I’ve always communicated my views so he was always aware.
He is practically flaunting his lying & cheating at you OP.
Then gaslighting you by telling you it's your fault.
What happened to you, in your early life, to have tolerated this level of disrespect & mistreatment? Abolutely zero judgement implied by that question btw - it's often our historic family dynamic that leaves us with insecure boundaries & poor self-esteem. So let me tell you - whatever your background - his behaviour is totally unacceptable & you should enforce a solid boundary by removing yourself from it.
Found out he’d tried to initiate contact with a girl from his past and he told me he was trying to line up a ‘back up plan’.
WTactualF?
How dare he?
Speaking of boundaries - here he is, toying with yours. They are not strong enough to withstand him yet, & he knows this. That is why ihe is constantly testing you - making you agree to exclusivity, then taunting you with his own lack of it. He is looking to see how far he can push you, what you will tolerate. He's probably enjoying your humilation because that is what makes him feel powerful & in control.
Please keep posting for support OP.
And apart from that emotional support - what practical difficulties would you face in splitting up with this man who treats you so horribly? Accommodation, finances, any legal separation of co-owned assets?
Imagine a time in the very near future when you could be free of this torment & doubt. Instead of exerting most of your emotional resources on worrying about his fidelity & fretting about the relationship, you could be focused entirely on yourself & how to break free of whatever has crippled your self-esteem so badly that you put up with this man's bullshit. You could get counselling, start reading up on dysfunctional families & abusive relationships, go on an assertiveness course, do The Freedom Programme, read ChumpLady, read Lundy Bancroft ...
In short, leave this loser behind & make yourself into the most comfortable, free, independent & self-defining woman you can be. You are worth so much more than this cheating scum. 
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