I recently was with a friend who was upset with her boyfriend, we spoke about the situation and then she spoke to him. I was there when they spoke and i couldn’t believe how easy their conversation was. She explained how she felt , he explained his side then apologised for making her feel that way, he put himself in her shoes and then told her how he felt about her.
I felt really sad because I realised I tread on eggshells around my boyfriend. If I ever tell him how I feel about something he immediately dismisses how I feel, he will be loud, he will say really hurtful things, our last conversation he told me to top myself. When I said that wasn’t acceptable he told me I can’t contextualise a sentence?!
He never ever apologises about anything, he will change how things happened in the past to make me look like the bad guy and he thinks because he shouts and swears he’s right. I’m crying because I can’t remember the last time my feelings were validated. I told my friend and she was like wow he sounds abusive, is this really abuse? Is there anyway through this