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Is it bad if I skip NYE with bf's friends?

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user1497782758 · 04/12/2022 22:14

Just here to ask for some advice on what to do about NYE. I've been with my bf for just over two years (but the first year we were long distance). When he was single he always spent new year's with his best friend and his girlfriend. I will admit that I have some insecurities when it comes to his best friend's girlfriend... his best friend isn't good at keeping in touch, so the majority of the communication between the three of them is between my bf and his best friend's girlfriend. That in itself isn't a problem, but she is quite affectionate with him, saying she misses him etc. Anyway, my bf and I were getting ready to go out for dinner tonight and I noticed a message from her pop up on his phone's home screen, asking what he's going for NYE because "new years isn't the same without you 😝😝".

My bf is now asking if I want to go and spend it with them, and I'm feeling a bit torn. I think that he should go regardless, as he hasn't seen them for a long time (they live five hours away and it's difficult with his work schedule), but I'm not sure I want to go... I know I'm probably being stupid, but I feel like my back is already up a little with the girlfriend, and to be honest, it doesn't seem like his friends have any interest in meeting me, it would kind of feel like I'm just the spare part tagging along. My period is also due on the 31st, so I already know I'm going to be tired, hormonal and with bad cramps... would it be that bad if I say I don't feel like going? It would save us having to find someone to look after our cat at least...

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Lookingoutside · 04/12/2022 23:53

I don’t think it’s bad at all. How is he likely to feel?

Regarding his friend’s girlfriend, I would put it out of your mind. She may have a little crush or maybe she just really likes his company.

You sound very sure about not wanting to go. Don’t drag yourself there on the first day of your period because others refuse to understand that couples don’t have to live in each other’s pockets. Even on New Year’s Eve.

Do make sure he knows that you genuinely want him to go and that he isn’t being tested in any way. Then enjoy your space and have a nice time together on New Year’s Day.

Opentooffers · 05/12/2022 00:03

Well, I think maybe it will help if you have a good counter offer of spending time with your friends or family NYE as an option. But then you can agree to do your own separate preferences on NYE instead. That only works if you have your own plans though.

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