I need to leave don't I?

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I dont know what to do anymore.

Been with my boyfriend for 8 years.

There are some ongoing issues in the relationship even from early on, if I went out with friends or out for the day even with my grandad I would get the silent treatment, gaslighted, or he would just make it very awkward for me.

He tells me to pack my shit and get out - I'm not on the lease and I have nowhere to go - he knows this.

He's made comments before that I apparently 'want him to hit me' and that he understands why my ex hit me.

He makes disgusting misogynistic jokes and pushes my boundaries and tells me I just don't have a sense of humour.

He's broken my stuff during fights.

I don't know why I haven't left yet - he always talks me round. But I've had enough.

I don't have friends or family I can stay with and I do have a job but I won't have money for a deposit or anything until later in the month. Obviously that will be my plan of action once I get paid but I don't think I can last almost three weeks here.

I was thinking about going to the council because I'm technically homeless but would they even help me if I have a job?

I just don't know what to do anymore.

Ring Women’s Aid. Please do it now. They also have a chat feature, if you’re uncomfortable speaking on the phone.

Yes, you need to leave. Have you looked at women's refuges in your area? I appreciate that these are often full but please do check them out as an option to get you out as soon as possible.

Or try housing matters

They have suggestions and can lend deposits.

Goady fucker isn't he. He's isolated you too. Yes, time to leave the horrible little shit human.

Could you afford an AirB&B for a few weeks? Just to get you out while you make more permanent plans?

Yes the council will help you.
Depending on where you are, the level of help they give could be very variable as demand far exceeds supply in many areas. But the fact you have a job is on no way a barrier. They may be able to help you get a deposit together or give you six months rent in advance in lieu of having a guarantor for example.

I spoke to Women's Aid chat and they were offering me temporary accommodation but it's too far away. I'll go and speak to the local one tomorrow.

Can't afford an air BnB I have literally enough money to travel to work and buy food etc til the 23rd.

I'm not in physical danger, he's never actually hit me, so if I have to wait so be it.

I spoke to Women's Aid chat and they were offering me temporary accommodation but it's too far away. I'll go and speak to the local one tomorrow.

Can't afford an air BnB I have literally enough money to travel to work and buy food etc til the 23rd.

I'm not in physical danger, he's never actually hit me, so if I have to wait so be it.

Distance is a good thing. Don't write off the women's aid offer. Don't wait until he does hit you to leave, you are minimising his behaviour. Do you have dcs?

It's just too far for work which I can't afford to miss.

No children.

I called the National Domestic Abuse helpline and the woman advised me to go and visit the women's aid office tomorrow so that's what I'll do before work.

Could your grandad put you up? When I left ex my dgm gave me the money for deposit on a rental.

Thank goodness there are no dcs. Also good to hear you have your own income. Absolutely no reason to stay with this arse wipe of a human then. Good luck tomorrow OP.

Yes, you need to leave. Good luck.

Good luck today, OP. Waiting it our for 3 weeks isn't the safest option for you, though. Please try to did a way out asap.