"Waking his child up at 10 pm to tell him the child he’s leaving equals lack of empathy".
No it does not! Perhaps his hand was forced and he knew the story would be breaking overnight. Perhaps he wanted to tell his own children himself, before it blew up. I would assume his stbexdw was there in the house too at the time and , likely was present when this conversation took place.
"Lying to his wife and family equals lack of morality".
People lie all the time, little white lies, big black ones! It is not a lack of morality. Have you never lied or made a convenient "excuse"
in your whole life ? Well done for be so perfect then if you have not. I lied to my Mum in 1999 when i was 19. A big black lie. I lied because my mum was very religious. I lied as i made a massive decision for myself at that time, a decision that was right for me and turned out to be so. I also lied to myself for 15 yrs trying to be happy in a marriage where i was miserable, bored, treated like a skivvy and crap sex . So when i repeatedly, over 2 yrs , spoke to my ex husband about my misery in an effort to salvage and; he did nothing, yes i had an affair and he finally agreed to divorce. Am i a narc, no i am not. What I am is human and flawed and not willing to waste anymore of my precious life time.
MH had an affair, it happens. People fall in and out of love and it is not 1953. Relationships and current situations can make people act. As i recall we thought we were all going to likely die at that time in a plague like scenario. Many of us reevaluated our lives. Some of us, me included adhered to all advice and instruction to the letter. Do i feel bitter he did not? No. Yes, he was health minister, yes, he should have held himself to higher standards but, he is human and he did not. Am i going to spend the rest of my life being bitter about it and berating him? No!
MH now partner also cheated on her husband as i recall , is she a narc then too? No mention of her in your post. You say narc, i say brave. Sometimes people who make choices for themselves, based on where they are in their life at that time are, often viewed as narcs. I would replace the word narc with brave and then situations take on a whole new meaning. We were not in his marriage, we have no idea, we were not there when he spoke to his children, we have no idea. We were not there when he was privy to pandemic information that may have shaped his world view at that time. We weren't there! Yes, he should have held higher standards, he didn't. A tale as old as time. Fgs move on.