He's amazing but not in the place

[Pineappleskies]

Went on a date last night with a very, very eligible bachelor. If that makes me sound old, it's because I am.

I think he's great. He's also 5 months out of a 30 year marriage and confused as to who he is and what he wants. He doesn't think he's confused. He thinks his head is clear. I think he's vulnerable.

Help me? X

Help you what?
Leave him to meet someone else?
Go ahead if that's what you want.

Take it slowly. Too soon to write it off.

Go on a second date and see how it goes and report back

OK. You are counselling patience. I will try that. Thank you.

Oh blimey.. only speaking from my own experience and not in any way saying you should do this, but I now avoid men who are fresh out of such long relationships.

They’ve always thought they were in the right place, I’ve heard ‘it was over way before the split’, blah blah… but they just weren’t ready imo. Plus, they were bloody clueless when it came to dating someone new. I want a man whose got a bit of experience under their belt, and not 30 years of experience with the same woman.. it’s deffo not for me..

Who's decision was it to end the marriage? If it was his, he could be ready if he wanted out for a while. Though obviously you could also be a rebound because he has no idea how to be alone.

If she ended it, there's not a chance in hell he's ready to date so soon.

I think she ended it. Didn't want to ask directly. He still seems to be getting his head around cooking and practicalities. He doesn't seem to know he is and expressed huge enthusiasm for all my hobbies and interests and said he'd like to start them too. Could just have been being polite on a first date.

I haven't heard from since, ie since Friday night.