Friend upset me so much

[abbeycafe]

Known this lady for many years and meet up now and again with other friends of same age and all ex-colleagues.

My mother died 4 months ago, and friend was so tactless last time we met. I was driving and just her in the car with me. She began asking how were things now with the family estate? What was going to happen with the house, what were my sister and I getting out of the family business etc etc. In the end I told her to stop as that was enough. I was almost in tears. It didn't stop there though, she began asking personal details about my daughters - money, income, babies etc etc.

She really was on a roll also telling me how much her son earned - basically all about her and her family's wealth. It has upset me so much.

My grieving was quietly in control and I was dealing with it well (ish), but now I have felt anger and upset so much so I don't want to meet her again. I know it will also cause upset to the others who we meet with.

What do I do? I feel quite low, but need to get my head round this.

This lady was extremely rude, inconsiderate and devoid of empathy.

However, I do not understand why you let her interrogate you in this manner. Why not just say "this isn't something I want to talk about". And change the subject.

If she is part of a group you want to continue to see, just do the minimum, i,e. Be polite but distant. Otherwise just drop her.

Anger is a normal reaction to grief. I can remember feeling like I was spoiling for a fight with everyone after my DM died which is very unlike me.
This person was rude and annoying, I think it may have triggered the anger stage of your grief. I suggest you keep away from her, if you can, for the time being. In time hopefully you will be able to deal with her and her stupid questions in the manner you would usually.