New to this dating game

[Newdoo]

Hi, so what do you guys think?
this guy asked me to go for a drink, I said yes.

It’s tonight.

Im not sure I feel a connection with him through txt messages.
yesterday he didn’t speak to me at all, all day, untill maybe 9pm when he sent a random msg saying he had to go back into work to get something. I didn’t respond.

Again he messages this morning with another random message, no good morning, just a message saying 1.5 hour round trip to take his son to school with a picture.

he hasn’t mentioned the drink at all since he asked me last week.

Am I to assume this isn’t happening?
My Daughter is Ill so I’m not going anyway but I don’t know whether to just leave it and assume it’s not even happening anyway so fine. Or txt to say I can’t make it !?

In my head I think I want to leave it. The whole thing. If I start to date I want to feel excited, and like that person is excited about me too. I don’t feel like that.
I think I’ll leave it and if he messages me I will just say well I have my daughter as she is unwell but I assumed it wasn’t happening anyway as you didn’t speak to ne at all yesterday and nothing was mentioned about going for a drink since you asked

(literally have no time agreed, no venue…)

You think I’m within rights to be like well I assumed it wasn’t happening?

TIA

He sounds really dull and flakey. Why send you a pic of the school run? If he can't be bothered to arrange a proper date with you like has happened- then i'd assume it's off. As a parent himself he should be aware of the arrangements you would have to make for your daughter, so to leave you dangling wandering what is going on is just inconsiderate. Some of these guys just seem to enjoy attention through text messages to keep people dangling. I'd write him off

You’re within your rights to do what the hell you like, you owe him nothing!

this is going nowhere, I wouldn’t even bother messaging again

His contact doesn't sound very personal, the random messages he could sending over again copy and paste. I would assume no date is happening unless I got a date/time/place scheduled in. I wouldn't go on date unless I genuinely feel I want to go anyway.

There are no rules. Nobody can tell you if it's ok to do anything or not do anything, unless there's a law. Other than that, you make the rules, because it's your life. If anybody doesn't like your rules, they're not one of 'your people' and it'll make your life more difficult if you try to keep them around.

So, you are within your rights to not show up for a date because perhaps he eats raspberry yoghurts. Or because he had a date with someone else too recently for your liking (even if that was 3 years ago)

The way you do things is what filters out people who are no good for you. Do things in the way that you think is right. Choose people who do things in ways that make you happy. You're in charge, because you know your feelings.